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20 Mar 08 #17295 by NearlyWed
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My fiance's ex-wife takes their 2 children to Sweden, France, Wales etc, and won't tell us exactly where in the country she is going, or provide any contact details.

BUT - my fiance says that if she ask about our holiday next week (we are going to the seaside for a week with the kids) he legally has to tell her exactly where we are going.

Is this true?

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09 Apr 08 #19029 by rubytuesday
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HI NearlyWed

Firstly, welcome to wiki, I am sure that you will find the help, support and advice here benefical.

I have just noticed your post, otherwise I would have replied sooner - sorry.

I am unsure of the legalities of providing contact details whilst on holiday, but I would have thought thought that both parents would exchange such details, for peace of mind. I have been apart from my children's father for 7 years, and have found knowing where my daughters are on holiday useful, we can look together on the internet at the places they are going to, and show them on a map where they will be going to, etc.

If she requires to have full contact details of where you are on holiday, it is unreasonable of her to withhold the same information, espcially when taking the children out of the country.

I hope that you work things out, and have had a great holiday!

Ruby

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09 Apr 08 #19036 by Mrs Ingledew
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2 wrongs don't make a right.

Whether there is a legal obligation or not I feel a parent should tell the other parent what that parent wants to know.

Even if this is not reciprocated. It is better to set a good exampleto your fiances children rather than be seen to lower yourselves to match the other.

Don't want to preach and I know it isn't easy. My ex doesn't see his children but still (via his mother) he vetos their films!

take it easy

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09 Apr 08 #19082 by NearlyWed
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Hi,

Thanks for the advice. We HAVE been setting a good example from Day1, exactly as you say, but it starts to wear thin after a while. I wish she would set a good example to the kids - not putting her fist through the front door & getting arrested would have been a start.

I could understand her behaviour a bit if I had "stolen" her husband from her, but she left him ( and the kids ) for another man a year before I came along. I think her problem is that she has had 3 boyfriends since she left & is now on her own yet again.

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09 Apr 08 #19085 by rubytuesday
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Hi Nearly wed

How was the holiday?
It sounds as though this woman has some issues, and is trying to make life as difficult for you and your fiance as possible. Im guessing that the holiday contact details are just part of the picture?

The chatroom is a good place for support, advice and just to let off some steam and have a good old rant - hope to see you there sometime.

Ruby

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