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04 Feb 11 #249696 by ribbo
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My situation is similar. I'm not offering advice but merely sharing my recent experience. When we split my wife moved 150 miles away and I ended up buying a flat for commuting and a house 10 miles from where she moved to. I do all the travelling. Last December when we had all the snow, she even refused to bring the kids the 10 miles to my house when she has a land rover and I have a BMW ( rear wheel drive ). Anyway, in december I had a burst pipe and my house is now uninhabitable pending repairs. So now I take the kids to a hotel. Because I didn't think it was fair on the kids to stay 3 nights in a hotel, I only kept them with me for 1 night ( Saturday ). I did this twice. Next thing is I get a call from the CSA saying my ex-wife has applied for a reassessment because I wasn't having the kids for 2/7 nights !! I tell them whats happened, that I had them for 5 nights over christmas and will be taking them skiing for a week and that from now on will keep them in a hotel for 2 nights. The nice man from the CSA asked if I was claiming expenses to which I said no. Some days later, the CSA reassessment arrives and now I'm paying £36/month less than before :-)Not a major victory but quite satisfying none the less.

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26 Feb 21 #515909 by Liverpool2019
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Hi I am currently going through the same situation. It is really difficult. Luckily I had already put a c100 for the second time due to breach of contact, however I am going to be requesting she now meets me half way for travel which she will refuse and I am hoping the court enforce it!
how did you get on with it in the end? It's an awful situation and only the children lose out!!

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26 Feb 21 #515910 by bigman60
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Big smile on my face , reading the above post , KARMA

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07 Oct 21 #517863 by blackmass
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@liverpool2019 Keep us posted with how you get on with the shared travel,

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