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21 Mar 12 #319376 by somuch2know2
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My STBX has said that she will never let the children come to my place or go on holiday with me if there is a 3rd party involved. In other words any other woman, and in particular my current girlfriend.

She also says that she will not allow the youngest to come over if the other 2 do not want to.

Legally where do I stand? And is it best to just ride it out, continue to try to communicate with my children and hope that one day they want to come over?

I left in June, and in total have spent at most 48hrs total with them. Not my choice-but she is determined to alienate me as much as possible.

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21 Mar 12 #319378 by PinkDuck
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You have a long hard battle ahead and you need to start taking steps to apply your own ground rules for the sanity of yourself and your children. Your ex is hurting, you left, she is punishing you.

You need to get a contact order in place to set out regular contact that benefits the children.

Start now, this doesn''t look like it will get any easier for you if you leave it..

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21 Mar 12 #319380 by somuch2know2
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Thanks. Was really hoping not to have to go down this route but she is making it impossible not to. She said in the past that if I chose my girlfriend over my kids, I would never see them again. This has been a constant "test" and one I keep failing.

The older two should be able to make up their own minds, but its not fair to keep me from my youngest.

More paperwork for me tonight.

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