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Contact Time - Grandparents

  • Mark100
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22 Mar 12 #319456 by Mark100
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Hi there

I recently had a contact order put in place but at my ex''s request one of the sessions/ times that have been allocated to me are quite difficult for me to do every week. Since my ex changed our children''s living arrangements my parents don''t see the children as much. Both miss each other. I am meant to pick the children up on Wed next week from school and return them to their mum at 7. Is it ok for me to arrange for my parents to do it (school know them well as they did it often for us before)?

As it''s their contact time with me I am assuming this is ok. Can anybody say for sure?

If I tell my ex will she will try to ruin this which is why I don''t want to tell her until afterwards.

Thanks from Mark

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22 Mar 12 #319471 by Lostboy67
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Hi Mark
All things being equal and assuming that your parents are of good character (i.e. not drug dealers/people trafficers etc) there isn''t a problem. In fact it could be argued that this is a positive thing for the children as it continues their relationship with their wider family.


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22 Mar 12 #319477 by rubytuesday
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I would agree with LB.

Extended family relationships are very important, and where possible encouraged and supported. Grandparents hold a special place in a child''s heart and time spent with them is very valuable.

Also - as the ''pick-up'' is during your contact time, its really down to you to make the arrangements, and who will collect the children.

Have a great time with your kids and parents :)

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22 Mar 12 #319480 by Mark100
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Thanks guys

The main thing is by arranging my Grandparents to pick them up and drop them off, I am not doing anything wrong.

I also don''t want to tell ex before as she will then try to stop it.

I know the kids love it - probably prefer Grandad and Grandma going to get them than me!:laugh:

I am just dealing with a very nasty and spiteful person!

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22 Mar 12 #319502 by MissTish1
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Mark you don''t need to tell your ex. How you arrange things within your contact time is up to you. She would be hard pressed to argue against it anyway, as time with extended family is great for the kids and a positive influence on their lives.

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