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How can a mother behave this way ?

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26 Mar 12 #320071 by lachico
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Dear all

My son will be three years old this June.

There has been court proceding regarding contact since my child was born. Mother has shown nothing but implacable hostility.

My question is this:

During supervised contact, mum does not respond, encourage or aknowledge her child when he is trying to engage with me. She just puts her head down when he asks or shows her something he''s done with me.

This makes me having to work really hard to get my child to engage with me. She makes my child feel guilty for engaging with me, its awful and I dont know what to do or what the long term damage might be to my child.

Can anyone tell me why she would behave this way if she loves her child-and maybe some advice please

Thanks

lach

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26 Mar 12 #320074 by Emma8485
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How long have you been having supervised contact ? If its since he was born and you can care for him alone, then could you move to unsupervised? there could be any number of reasons for how she is behaving....

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26 Mar 12 #320094 by Joe2020
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lachico wrote:

Can anyone tell me why she would behave this way if she loves her child


She hates you more than she loves her child.
Thats why people like you and me are on this site.

Offer her mediation stating your concerns and why you think you need to talk.
If she won''t attend take it back to court.You have a very good reason for having unsupervised contact I would assume.

Your son is almost 3 years old not 3 months.Def time you and him had time alone including overnights.

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26 Mar 12 #320151 by lachico
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It has been supervised contact since he was born and I think you are absolutaly right - I should have unsupervised contact by now. But she is such a drama queen and CAFCASS seem to dance around her tune at the moment.

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26 Mar 12 #320152 by lachico
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Thank you for your words - there is a ring of truth in them!

lach

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30 Mar 12 #320945 by dermot49
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parents who act like this often have issues with abandonment and attachments from childhood. some have even been abused.

basically you need the contact to be supervised by someone else or ideally unsupervised contact.

this is not good for your sonand you need to contact Cafcas with your concerns and get back to court.

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31 Mar 12 #320972 by lachico
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Thanks for your reply, the mother does have a history which I won''t go into here. She has had a psychological assessment but was able to pull the wool over the so called experts eye!

thanks again

lach

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