My ex has made an application to court to vary our existing court order that was awarded in Sept10, she want to reduce the contact and claims that my daughter is starting to resent the amount of time she spends with me because she doesn''t get to spend as much time with her friends.
Does anyone know what the court are likely to say. My daughter is 10 on her birthday.
For wiki''s who are not aware of the history I travel 700mls return journal every other weekend for maintain contact and have her for 50% of school holidays. I have only ever missed two weekends in 18 months and that was because my daughter was sick one weekend and I was sick the other.
I court application does not state how much my ex wishes to reduce the contact by.
I find it rich considering my ex has clubs organised every night of the week, mind you she attends these with the same friends that is attens school with each day and apparently doesn''t see enough off.
I know its my ex driving this as she text and phones my daughter during her contact with me saying her friends have passed the window or have come to the door for her. It is having an impact on my daughter and I dont know whether I should give in and stop the torment for my daughters sake.
As you are only seeing your daughter every other weekend, then she has plenty of time to see her friends. She''s only 10, and the court is very unlikely to reduce contact on the basis of your ex telling them your child resents spending time with you because she''s missing out on her friends. I think your ex texting her and calling her telling her who has called for her is appalling to be honest, and don''t see any reason for that other than to actively make your daughter feel left out. In my opinion that behaviour is cruel, and something you should definitely bring up with the court!
As an aside, does your daughter have any friends near to where you live?
Thanks for you confirmation of what I think is common sense but obviously my ex and her lawyer dont share the same view.
As my ex moved the 350mls south all my daughters cousins and old school friends live within 5mls of where I stay and she has lots of contact with them when she is in Scotland.
My ex''s interpretation of the current contact order is much different to mind and she constantly tried to reduce my contact, eg one week is apparently 5days not 7. This is just her latest ploy to reduce contact. I really dont want to have to go back to court again but it looks like thats inevitable now.