BF went on a course last Nov, he asked mum to have kids as he couldn''t have them that week. He thought it best for the kids to be with one parent or the other. She said only if he paid her to have them during his time. He said forget it. I took time off work to make sure I was there all the time for them to take them to and from school and clubs etc... and at last minute (on the day he left for his course) she told him they were staying with her.
Fuss fuss.. but sorted.
Now.. he has another course he needs to go on to further his career change. We have discussed it and feel that we cannot go through what happened last time, i.e. me taking time of work for nothing. I personally think he should just advise mum that he cannot have the children that week, end of. She won''t enter into discussions to replace the time so we won''t bother with that.
Or should I, again, book time of work and just have them with the chance that she will find out he is away and just not hand them over resulting in losing three days of my holiday (which I would gladly use if I thought I would have them).
His parents are elderly and they don''t live local. I think it would be too much to ask two 75 year olds to have three young children for three days on their own. That said, the issue is mum not allowing dad to leave the children with anyone else but her.