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29 Mar 12 #320622 by PinkDuck
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BF went on a course last Nov, he asked mum to have kids as he couldn''t have them that week. He thought it best for the kids to be with one parent or the other. She said only if he paid her to have them during his time. He said forget it. I took time off work to make sure I was there all the time for them to take them to and from school and clubs etc... and at last minute (on the day he left for his course) she told him they were staying with her.

Fuss fuss.. but sorted.

Now.. he has another course he needs to go on to further his career change. We have discussed it and feel that we cannot go through what happened last time, i.e. me taking time of work for nothing. I personally think he should just advise mum that he cannot have the children that week, end of. She won''t enter into discussions to replace the time so we won''t bother with that.

Or should I, again, book time of work and just have them with the chance that she will find out he is away and just not hand them over resulting in losing three days of my holiday (which I would gladly use if I thought I would have them).

Input please..

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29 Mar 12 #320623 by jonathancj
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She can''t ask to charge for the time so she''s out on a limb with that suggestion. Best just to say he can''t have them that week, he can swap for another week instead.

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29 Mar 12 #320625 by PinkDuck
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We have more chance of Hell freezing over than swapping time.

She is two and a half years down the line and she is still so angry and bitter. She left my BF for the guy she is still with but you would honestly think it was the other way round.

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29 Mar 12 #320635 by jonathancj
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Then she''ll get an extra week with the kids, but without additional financial contribution from your BF.

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29 Mar 12 #320694 by MrsMathsisfun
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Mwhappet

I would say to mum, dad has course between x and y date, so dad unavailable.

You know what ever way you ask she will throw all her toys out the pram and not allow you to look after the children. Its a game of brinkmanship.

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29 Mar 12 #320699 by bygones99
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Doesn''t he have any relatives who can have them? Grandparents?

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29 Mar 12 #320702 by PinkDuck
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His parents are elderly and they don''t live local. I think it would be too much to ask two 75 year olds to have three young children for three days on their own. That said, the issue is mum not allowing dad to leave the children with anyone else but her.

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