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30 Mar 12 #320788 by Mark100
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Hi All

As part of our court order we have to share all holidays 50:50. I am due to take them back on a certain day in the Easter holidays but ex has stated 4pm. I have explained that they have both been invited to a prty with their friends that starts at 4pm so I said is 7pm ok?

Ex sent me two texts saying she will contact her solicitor who will send me a letter stating it will 4pm and if I don''t do it she will call the police as I will be breaking a court order.

The court order states that the parents agree the holiday arrangements before each holiday so I don''t think the ''time'' is set and that I am breaking the order.

I am dealing with a nasty and bitter person but the kids have missed out on enough to do with our situation and her behaviour and I feel I must stick up for them.

Can anybody offer any advice?
(It seems crazy going through a solicitor for every holiday arrangement).

Many thanks from Mark

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30 Mar 12 #320792 by Hamilton1
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Could a compromise be reached by saying that you will drop the children off to the party and she will collect them?

Try and offer a variety of solutions always putting the children''s interests and needs first and I dont see you where you will go wrong.

You are in an unfortunate position as although as per the order you should be agreeing the terms of contact by agreement if your wife insists on dragging you back to Court every time she does not get her way you will haev to attend to stand your ground and that of the children more importantly.

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30 Mar 12 #320794 by Mark100
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Thanks for the response. I have already suggested that I drop them at the party and she picks them up meaning they won''t miss out. She''s ignored that suggestion so far.

It may seem I am being ''petty'' but I am not. If there wasn''t a party I''d just take them for 4pm but why should they miss out on things just so she can order me about and be nasty?

It''s not fair on them.

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30 Mar 12 #320796 by Hamilton1
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So true.

At the end of the day the children will enjoy the party with their friends and that is the most important factor.

Good luck. Hopefully she will see sense.

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30 Mar 12 #320806 by sexysadie
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Well, she could call the police, but I expect they would be completely uninterested. You have not snatched the children, you are planning to return them three hours later and have told her this, and in any case you have parental responsibility.

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30 Mar 12 #320902 by happyagain
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Ignore her and take the kids to the party, but be prepared for her to be there when you collect them.
If the order says there should be agreement between you, then her telling you 4pm does no count as agreement in my book. She won''t want to look unreasonable in front of her childrens'' friends parents so might just keep quiet at pick-up time.
We had the same with my step-chidlren''s mum. One year she actually tried to demand that we return them at 8am on a bank holiday Monday (we live 20 miles away, hubby forgot to get bank hols included in contact order). She insisted this was in the order. When we pointed out no time was mentioned at all, only that it should be Monday, she quietened down and we now take them back as late as poss on the bank hol (she wont give her consent to the extra night).

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30 Mar 12 #320935 by Emma8485
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Mark - looking at this rationally - even if she went to the extent of repeating this in court at some time, whats she going to say?

Your honour - He disregarded what I wanted and took the kids to their friends party instead where they wanted to go and asked me to have them back two hours later.

Yea you bad dad !!! :p

Tell her you dont agree, you think that because they want to attend their friends party it is in their best interests to do so as it maintains their frinedships and she is welcome to collect them from there at the end.

xx

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