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My son is being coached and nobody gives a . . . ?

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01 Apr 12 #321045 by lachico
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Dear all,

My son will be 3 yars old in June. I see him every 2 weeks at a contact centre which is supervised by 2 workers. We will be going back to court for Directions in June hopefully.

Every time my child comes to see me, he is off his feet tired and sometimes asleep when he comes in with mum.

My child even tells me (he went to bed late last night)meaning the night before contact.

This is mum''s devious way of trying to make him grumpy during contact.

After my child has settled at the contact centre, the superviser will get mum out of the room, but recently my son has been a bit clingy to mum, wanting to leave the room with her.

Luckily, we managed to get mum out of the room and my son happily played with me.

My 23 month old son then told me out of the blue " when I am in the car with mummy, she tells me to stay with her and not play with you"


Its heart breaking to hear this from a young child. Has anyone got any thoughts they could share on the matter?

Thanks

lach.

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01 Apr 12 #321047 by DrDaddy
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lachico wrote:

Dear all,

My son will be 3 yars old in June. I see him every 2 weeks at a contact centre which is supervised by 2 workers. We will be going back to court for Directions in June hopefully.

Every time my child comes to see me, he is off his feet tired and sometimes asleep when he comes in with mum.

My child even tells me (he went to bed late last night)meaning the night before contact.

This is mum''s devious way of trying to make him grumpy during contact.

After my child has settled at the contact centre, the superviser will get mum out of the room, but recently my son has been a bit clingy to mum, wanting to leave the room with her.

Luckily, we managed to get mum out of the room and my son happily played with me.

My 23 month old son then told me out of the blue " when I am in the car with mummy, she tells me to stay with her and not play with you"


Its heart breaking to hear this from a young child. Has anyone got any thoughts they could share on the matter?

Thanks

lach.


Yes, that is very sad indeed.

I guess the direct way is to simply tell her what has happened - perhaps in a letter. Children do repeat things, of course, so maybe when she considers that she''ll stop doing it. She''ll realise that her insidious behaviour is going to be exposed.

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