Hello,
My STBX has today denied me access to my children, on FALSE grounds that my new partner has slept in the same bed as them at the same time. I have been very careful in the 10 months that my ex and i have been separated that my new partner and my children do not meet, as I am fully aware of the sensitivity of the issue where the young ones (3 and 4) are concerned. my ex and I are going to discuss a plan of introduction through
mediation but I am skeptical of the value this will hold. Recently i got a letter from her solicitor detailing the alleged bed share. I have an assessment appointment with the mediator very soon to discuss the process of introducing my children to my new partner, but my feeling is that mediation will not change anything as far as my ex is concerned because she simply doesn''t trust me. I have given her no reason to distrust me as far as the children are concerned and don''t believe any agreement derived from mediation will change that.
I am convinced that everything that my ex has said and done thus far is merely a delaying tactic to prevent my partner meeting the children.
The children have in fact met my partner already; consent had been given by my ex for this to happen, but she has since withdrawn this consent and slapped a solicitors letter through my door. It is worth mentioning that my partner and I live together, so overnight stays for the children have been carried out while my partner spends this night each week at her mothers home.
My main query is regarding my rights as a father; are they any less than the mother since I am not the main carer? Can she dictate what happens with my children when they are in my care?
I have been assured by people (not solicitors) that she has no right / control over this and cannot do what she has done.
I have been told about filling in a contact form for the courts, but know nothing about the process. I would appreciate your help.
Thank you in advance,
Loving father of 2.