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Swimming arranged during father''s time - UPDATE

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01 May 12 #327626 by C. J.
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Hi all,

I thought I''d update you on this subject.

As some of you pointed out now mum has realised that weekends are now alternated and it affects her designated weekend with the children she too doesn''t want her Sunday to be took up with a swimming lesson in the middle of the morning, so therefore is planning on changing their next course to a weekday after school!:lol:

The phrase "when it suits..." springs to mind but hey ho at least my fiance can take the children swimming on his own time without the added travelling and the restrictions that came with it.:)

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16 May 12 #330982 by C. J.
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Hi all,

This problem has re-surfaced again.

The ex has changed the children''s swimming lessons to 9.30am on Saturday mornings without consulting my fiance beforehand. She ordered that my fiance would have to collect them at 9am from now on to take them to their lesson.

The swimming lessons first thing on a Saturday morning actually isn''t a problem at the moment as we collect them on Saturday mornings and could take them straight to the lesson but in July the overnight stays increase to 2 nights and we start collecting them from school on a Friday. This means we again would have the hassle of travelling again back to mums area, so we''d have to get the children up and ready earlier in order to make the journey to their lesson.

The ex has now said that she''s going to stop the Friday contact and will be calling the judge tomorrow morning to tell him what has been going on!! If my understanding serves me correctly people can''t just call the court and demand to speak to a judge to get a contact order changed without a hearing and getting the other party''s input beforehand??:unsure:

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17 May 12 #331187 by MrsMathsisfun
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So how did the ex get on speed dialling the judge?

I wouldnt mention the swimming at the moment, just get the Friday contact established then worry about whether your prepared to take them to their lessons.

Once the friday contact happens I would collect the children and their swimming stuff, nodding and saying of course we will take them, then '''' by accident '''' forget to go a few sessions.

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17 May 12 #331200 by C. J.
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Haha! This is the superior attitude that we have to deal with. She genuinely thinks she''ll get through to the judge, plead her case and the judge will side with her without even questioning anything! Funnily enough my fiance hasn''t heard anything from her....yet!

In our defence we actually do have numerous things planned on future weekends with the children that will mean that they won''t be able to attend their saturday morning lessons. These include my sister''s wedding in 3 weeks time, overnight stays at families, parties etc.

I hope she does manage to get a court hearing bought forward as this is not the only thing that needs ironing out.

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