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13 Apr 12 #323519 by somuch2know2
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This is more a gripe but yet again I have been banned from seeing my kids as my STBX says she doesnt trust me NOT to introduce her to my current girlfriend.

It was all a nasty exchange of texts which started when my youngest called for itunes password- which I changed as I knew it would prompt them to call me. Pathetic? You try going 8 months less than 10hrs contact with your kids.. you start to get desperate.

We had a fun conversation and I said she could come over and we would make cupcakes. She got all excited and told my STBX who for the first time in 2 months actually contacted me saying all contact has to go through her. That is pretty difficult when the phone goes unanswered and I speak more regularly to the answerphone than to her.

Anyway I now dont get to see my daughter but I do have yet another text of her proving that she is a very nasty piece of work.

I am now more determined than ever to go to court. She thinks she is "protecting the kids" Wait until the court sees how many texts she sent saying I would never see the kids again, or how I had to choose. FUMING

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13 Apr 12 #323521 by jonathancj
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You living with Vladette the impaleress or something? ;)

Yes, well, it''s a common enough issue and it gets a common enough solution - if your new lady isn''t a danger to your child, why would the court try to exclude her? As I don''t suppose for one moment she is, the court most likely won''t.

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13 Apr 12 #323522 by happyagain
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Not pathetic, quite a clever tactic really! And not malicious either.
Fight fire with fire, go for it.

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13 Apr 12 #323525 by somuch2know2
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My new girlfriend is lovely, but she is the woman I had an affair with and who I started seeing again after I left. She keeps threatening me with all this info she supposedly has on my girlfriend. I keep asking her what it is.. but her response is "you will see". Apparently is a scantily clad beach photo (topless). Wow- keep the kids away now.

Anyway- this was the most I have spoken to my ex in ages..I guess thats progress??

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13 Apr 12 #323528 by Bobbinalong
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So much, after reading your posts, it seems ou have the mind set and sense of humour to deal with this.
For whatever your split, this is another parent using the kids as a weapons against the others feelings etc.

Go for it, you are going to have to get an order I would say, you will love the day you finally get time with your daughter and can make cupcakes.
Been there...

As regards her threats of the dirt, hey let her do her worst it''s all just stuff to string your feelings along, pay no attention to it, the more you do, or question her, the more stories she will concoct.

Getting a contact order lip is easy.
You need to start getting stuff down chronologically, maybe even get a small reorder like I did.
It all goes in a witness statement which you present to courtyo back up your reason for being there.

Keep a diary.

One day you will get the time with your daughter, she deserves you.
Whatever woman your seeing has nothing to do with your ex.

Prep ourself for a couple or three years of grief and difficulties but one day, like my ex they begin to get the message that your not going away.

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13 Apr 12 #323530 by MrsMathsisfun
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Have you issued court proceding in an attempt to get her to go to mediation to sort out contact?

I know having an affair isnt the best way to end a relationship but using contact with the children as a weapon to hurt the ''guilty'' party is indefencible.

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13 Apr 12 #323539 by MissTish1
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Fantastic that you have the texts from her refusing contact. She''s gonna be hard pressed to come up with anything ''valid'' for her behaviour! Okay, she''s angry cos you had an affair, I think we all understand that, but she''s taking it out on the kids, and that is as wrong as it gets. How she could deny a little girl making cupcakes with her daddy is beyond me.

But, you can safely say that she is paving the way for a successful day in court. Something to thank her for perhaps, when its done and dusted ;)

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