My wife and I are embarked on divorce proceedings (me as the respondent). We have two children. We have been married 11 years. For the most part we have shred childcare equally between us and I would expect, normally, the status quo to apply. My wife I believe is intending to claim that a substantial part of childcare was provided by my mother-in-law on her behalf. My mother-in-law in non-UK resident but has visted for long periods of time (against my wishes in many cases). Wehave both been in full time employment and arranged childcare around our differing shift pattern. How might my wifes claim (if she does this) affect my claim on joint custody and the equity split in the property. I believe this claim is behing maximising paymenets to her from me and allowing her to remain in the house whilst I have to rent a room or something.
In looking at the issue of Residence and Contact (not custody) the court has to consider what is in the bestr interests of th childnre. Past arrangments are relevent but not determinative.
In general, it is likely to be seen as preferable for childnre to be looked after by a paretns than by a third party, even a close relative such as a grandparent.
However, in your case I would focus primarily on what your proposals are,and how they will met the chilren''s needs. By all means make it clear that you have always shared are, but look to the future, not the past.