My other post ''opinions please'' holds full details of shift patterns.
Basically my ex and I split last July. He works 6 on and 4 off. He began by having them for 2 overnight stays in his 4 days off, obviously different days all the time.
In March my little boy asked to go for 3 nights so we''ve been trialling 3 nights since then. It''s been ''ok''.
I have a new job and have asked for a degree of flexibility - I want to always collect the children on a thursday and take to school on a friday as my new hours mean I will not be doing this monday to wednesday and will barely be at home so it''s important for me to do it at least once a week (I was made redundant, this isn''t through choice).
He''s basically said no stuff you it''s all got to be my way. So I''ve said well then we go back to just 2 days as that''s what''s written in the divorce petition. The children come first and I think it''s messy at the moment but we deal with it - I''m asking for 1 regular day that over the next year only affects him on 6 occasions (he can keep the 3 days in school hols).
Just wondered if this went to court how likely he is to get everything his way? I work round him now but I deserve some consideration. I would far prefer alternate weekends and 1 set night in the week but I can''t have that can I - if I said well it''s that or tough how would he feel?
It does cause difficulties as my daughter likes her activities and he doesn''t want to take her, I don''t see this arrangement being sustainable in the long run.