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21 Apr 12 #325551 by Nonymouse
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My Friends situation at present is NRP has child during the day one day at the weekend, every weekend, no over nights, been this way for four years. NRP has been offered more regular and prolonged access and NRP has been encouraged to have child overnight but refuses to have more access or any overnights although pops in to see child now and again when in area, NRP pays maintenance regularly, gives child pocket money when possible. My friend has accepted this and lets it roll but child now sees that day access once a week is not the norm. Child sees friends go to stay with their NRP overnight and holidays away etc and is beginning to give my friend a hard time. My friend can see where the childs frustrations are but other than sit child down to say NRP doesn''t want to have you more what can my friend do. NRP will not budge as the partner of 5 yrs will not tolerate child staying over at house.

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21 Apr 12 #325658 by MissTish1
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Unfortunately there isn''t much your friend can do. Sadly there are NRP''s out there who don''t want the contact that is offered to them, for whatever reason, and for the countless numbers of NRP''s that would take every minute of contact they can to not want it is unthinkable.

If the child is at an age where he/she can voice an opinion about this lack of contact, perhaps the child should be encouraged to tell the NRP? However, if the NRP is in a relationship where the partner doesn''t want the child staying overnight (why?), then it may not make any difference.

It''s sad, but as my stepdaughter keeps on saying (re her mum''s lack of contact with her) ''you can take a horse to water but you can''t make it drink''.

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