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22 Apr 12 #325756 by gttob1107
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I am a resident parent of my 2dd (with a resident order in place) Ex has a good contact order, agreed by us both, it has taken 3 years and many many teething problems, incl an attack at handover, however, we have been in a place for around 7 months of good contact, the children enjoy going, we are both flexible around the order with meeting different clubs, we swap days etc.Basically we have now reached a point where we both work simply towards the children and they are happy and secure in both homes with good relationships with us both.

The only problem I know have is that my eldest feels she doesn''t see her dad enough - example was on mothers day the children were supposed to come home on the sat tea time, however neither girls wanted to do so saying that they don''t see dad very often, I agreed and collected sunday morning so as to facilitate the time with dad.

Basically they are only seeing him every other weekend fri - sun, he can have mid week contact but says he cant afford it (cant drive so uses train and bus) and my eldest I know is feeling the gap and struggling in it being too long.

He does phone once a week, but it isn''t enough for her ( she has always been a daddy''s girl) how do I approach him with a sensible solution to the contact ensuring that we are sensible regards travel ( I cant afford to do it all) and meeting the girls needs and that of our own eg work commitments etc?

Any advice ideas appreciated xxx

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22 Apr 12 #325758 by Fiona
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How old are the children and is there any reason why the children can''t phone your ex relatively freely during the week or meet online?

Older children often cope better with longer periods of contact less often and one possibility might be extended weekends every six weeks or so during the school holidays, half terms and service days.

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22 Apr 12 #325760 by gttob1107
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Thanks for your reply,

we do already have that in place, she emails him and whatspp him regular and the phone they know is there to use.

He has half of all school hols and bank holidays etc, it''s not a 50/50 arrangement because of the distance and public transport factor for him.

She just says she''d like to see him more and i want to help with that.

They are 9 and 6 xx

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22 Apr 12 #325776 by rasher
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What is the distance between both households?

One of the other options if you both have computers at home is to skype eachother my kids skype their dad even though he lives locally - it allows the face to face and can meet the need for a connection on a more frequent basis.

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