Hello, I am currently considering whether to apply for shared or full residence. I have two little girls and am divorcing their father. He still lives at home but spends hardly any time there, out of which about 10 minutes a week is what I would call quality time with the girls. He tells them he loves them and gives them a kiss or perhaps if the older one is lucky, he reads her a book or puts the TV on for her. About once every two months he takes the older one out, never takes the little one. About once a year, he buys them a present and once or twice a year sweets. I have begged him to be with them but he just goes out and never tells us when he would come back or where he is going. He only looks after them when I cannot pick them up from nursery, which is for 3 or 4 hours a week. I get no money for them from him, not even a penny. He spends all his money on himself (designer clothes, perfume, taking his girlfriends out) and when he goes food shopping, only buys food for himself. I understand that my girls need their father but because of how he makes no effort with them, I want to apply for full residency. But is it the right thing to do? He will be very angry and may stop having even that little time with them that he is having now...I want what is best for my children but sometimes it is difficult to make that decision...Thanks for any good advice!
From what you have said there doesn''t seem to be any reason why a court would award residence. There is a no order principle and the courts won''t usually make an order for residence unless there is some reason or other why children can''t "live" with the other parent. The outcome of many residence applications is shared residence.