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05 May 12 #328626 by sillywoman
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Stopping contact I dont believe is considered an option here, more supervised contact whilst the children are in their father''s home where explicit sexual images are made available to the children, until such a time as the father realises the carelessness of leaving sexual material available to his children is potentially damaging to their emotional well being.

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05 May 12 #328628 by sexysadie
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I''m not sure that this really counts as ''sexual material''. Of course we don''t know the details, but sexy pictures of his girlfriend might well be the sort of thing that can be bought off the shelf at Tescos these days.

Of course it''s not appropriate for the girls to see these photos, but I wouldn''t be particularly surprised if the thirteen year old went looking for the images if she knew from her sister that they were there. My fourteen year old certainly would have! Unless they are sitting directly on the desktop I think your ex has been careless rather than anything else, and may well be embarassed.

As for supervised contact, the elder child is seventeen, so could be having sex herself perfectly legally, so in her case at least it would be daft. It is also not clear what the supervisor would be watching out for - the girls using their father''s laptop?

My own ex left sexy photos of a previous girlfriend (before he met me) on the hard disk of the children''s computer where he had backed them up. When my sons found them they were both amused and embarrassed and we all had a laugh about it - though of course this was not someone they would be meeting in the (clothed) flesh, as it were. I think you have to take it as foolishness rather than harm. It certainly doesn''t seem to me to be a reason to insist on supervised contact or to call Social Services.

I feel sorry for the woman herself - I wonder whether she knows her boyfriend''s children have seen these photos? Embarassing, or what?

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Sadie

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05 May 12 #328631 by Fiona
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Sigh..we are going round in circles. If both parents have PR one parent doesn''t have the right to unilaterally impose conditions about contact, arrangements need to be agreed or decided by the courts. In any case the 17 year old is old enough to make her own decisions.

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05 May 12 #328640 by sillywoman
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Your daughter punished for her father''s stupidity? I think not!

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06 May 12 #328662 by hawaythelads
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All you can do is point out the man''s stupidity to him again.
Ask him why he is incapable of making these secure?

I suspect the girls may well vote with their feet with a new bird on the scene 18 years his junior.

She''ll be jealous of your daughters as well and view them as a threat.
Your ex will vote with his dxck trust me.

There''s no way he''ll put his teenage daughters in front of the sex with the new young bird.

All the best
HRH xx

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