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15 May 12 #330700 by blonde cazza
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In my statement of arrangements i had added extra 2 afternoons contact for my ex partner to pick up his son..
This form was sent to his solicitor and to the court with the divorce petition in january.Last night after trying to make many suggestions to my ex he said he cant pick our son up during the week and to pay for taxis out of the child maintenance to pays!.
This was a man who last year kicked up through solicitors that he wanted more contact then just friday eve to sun morning.Its now there in black and white but he cant be bothered to do it..
Never was i informed by his solicitor or him that he couldnt do it..i had to ask him when he was going to start doing it..after week he finally tells me that reply.
I cant understand why hes taking it out on the child like this...i work too,i take our son to apointments oh i taxi our son about.
Any advice on this would be gratefully recieved as our Nisi went through last tuesday...
My ex pays me 350 a month for our son which barely covers food and clothes for him and to be told pay for taxis out of this as well because he cant pick him up!

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15 May 12 #330701 by Emma8485
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Hi Cazza, I too have struggled sometimes with work because my ex doesnt always have the kids when he should, unfortunately as much as you may not want to hear this, you cant "make" him do these things.

My ex doesnt take responsibility for school, doctors, dentits, anything, he pays a nominal amount of CSA, and I have to make do.

Unfortunately you can offer all the contact in the world but they dont have to take it! Stinks !

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15 May 12 #330705 by perin123
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Cazza, don''t try to understand your ex!! I gave up a long time ago with mine...

He too demanded a pattern of contact through his solicitor and also extra contact but keeps cancelling. It''s just to suit his life and his schedule. He also pays £0 maintenance for his son, at least your ex contributes something!!

Don''t know what the answer is, if you find one, let me know!!:angry:

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15 May 12 #330707 by blonde cazza
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It makes me so angry because last year i spent hundreds of pounds on solicitors fees because he wanted more contact even though he let my son down on days.
My ex didnt even speak about who our son was going to live with he just assumed he was going to stay with me and i wouldnt have it any other way because i love the bones off him.
Im not sure what happens now as our nisihas gone through and the judge has gone with that information on the form.
What gets me is his original statement of arrangements hasnt included any bdays,christmas or holidays so maybe he doesnt intend to have him any of these?
From making my life a living hell from the moment i asked for a divorce i dont understand why he would hurt the person who is the most precious thing to me...baffles me!

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15 May 12 #330708 by blonde cazza
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i think you answered it perin...its when they find it convieient to them!

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15 May 12 #330713 by perin123
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Cazza, I think the statement of arrangement is not set in stone so it wont matter. I think even people who have court orders for contact arrangements have trouble after when they are not adhered to!

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15 May 12 #330715 by perin123
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Cazza, I think the statement of arrangement is not set in stone so it wont matter. I think even people who have court orders for contact arrangements have trouble after when they are not adhered to!

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