What you don''t want, though, is a situation where the children don''t know where they are going to be in advance as this can be disruptive to them not to say inconvenient as regards their social life as they get older.
It''s also not fair to have a situation in which the children are based with one parent but the other feels that they can turn up at any time and spend time there with the kids or take the kids away without prior arrangement with the main carer. No-one wants their ex potentially turning up unannounced at any time.
So you don''t have to have times set down by the court, but if you don''t you need to be on good enough terms to be able to agree flexibly, amicably, and in a child-centred way.
Ok cheers for the advice so far.We have been separated for over 2 years now.The arrangement we have is that his dad can see him whenever he wants or have him stay over when ever he wants obviously by prior arrangement but not at defined preset times. This has worked greatfor all concerned so far and i dont want to have to specify times.