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24 May 12 #332766 by autumn9
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Some of you will know my journey which has taken nearly 3 years in and out of court regarding contact. In that time contact has been supported and in a contact centre. It has only been unsupported since November and only very recently been able to take place at my ex''s new home. What has surprised me and is of concern to me is that my ex has allowed our two children (7 and 9 years) to cross main roads alone and to play unsupervised at his new premises (was only their second time of contact at an unfamiliar place) What do other wiki peeps feel/think? Would be interested to hear others thoughts. Thanks

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24 May 12 #332770 by jslgb
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My initial instinct is they are too young. My ex lets my 5 year old daughter play out in his cul-de-sac with his girlfriends 11 year old son watching her and i''ve had to tell her not to do it. Children need parental supervision in my opinion. There are too many dangers around.

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25 May 12 #332948 by Crumpled
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Hi call me overprotective but as a mum to three children myself i think this is too young to be out by themselves and crossing main roads etc is your 9 year old also having to be responsible for you 7 year old when they are unsupervised etc as that is grossly unfair on them as well....

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25 May 12 #332971 by happyagain
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I certainly wouldn''t let my own 7 year old do this, but others do. I often see children younger than that walking to school by the self. Everyone has different levels of what is acceptable. I''m sure that my mum would say that this was normal ''back in her day''!

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25 May 12 #332987 by Lostboy67
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Clearly from you post you don''t agree with this (I''ve personal reasons for agreeing with you on this one but that''s a long story)
What you have to descide is what to do about it.
I balanced approach is probably going to be best, just speak or email your ex and say that you are concerned about the saftey of this. If you go in all guns blazing threatening to stop contact its just going to cause trouble and not resolve the concerns.


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