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25 May 12 #332930 by somuch2know2
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I have FDR on Monday and know it will be a big waste of time- To be honest I am beyond trying to be rational with her. This can drag all the way to FH for all I care.

I am fighting SM but think it will be given (at least for a term)- I am also fighting (and cant believe she wants) the 30% of future bonuses. They are nil at the moment but their is little chance she will actually lay stake on these.

I am not sure what smoke her lawyer is blowing up her arze but I will say she will be far more disapointed then I will at the settlement.

My barrister has sent me notes she has made in regards to my wife''s offer. I must say I am very impressed with her so far- lets hope she is worth her fees

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25 May 12 #332933 by Enuff Already
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Be nice to know how you fair mate.. good luck.. it can be a bit intimidating but stay cool and dont let her get to you, we werent even in the same room, if looks could kill I would be dead a thousand times over.

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25 May 12 #332935 by somuch2know2
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On the plus, I do think the end for me is near.

And, my kids are speaking to me- minus the one that really hates me. 2 out of 3 isnt bad. My ex is even bringing them over to see me this sunday- a first.

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25 May 12 #332936 by somuch2know2
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Did you go all the way to FH or did you settle?

Dont worry I plan on updating all on wiki as its been a very long, exhausting road. I think I am more than realistic about the outcome which keeps me calm, either that or its the pain killers I am on - either way, I cant wait to be signed and sealed and logoff from here one last time.

What county did you divorce in? For some reason mate''s of mine in Essex do far better than those elsewhere

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25 May 12 #332938 by Enuff Already
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I resigned myself that I was going to lose everything; she had pretty much taken everything anyway. Got to final hearing, Judge said she was exorbitant and suggested she take a realistic look at the proposals and sent us off to discuss, came back and she still wouldn’t agree, so Judge said “Mrs Xxxxx you won’t like it if I make the judgement and these costs are mounting, do you want them to be yours?” That was quite a moment. Judge had already given indications as to what he would suggest, don’t think he read all the paperwork though as I lost half my pension but I was at hair pulling out stage by then, and I haven’t exactly got loads of hair to lose and it finished it for me so I guess it was worth it. Mind you pensions are failing miserably right now so I am not sure it will be worth much when it matures anyway.

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25 May 12 #332943 by C. J.
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Despite the treatment that I have received over the past few days, I am aware that this thread by Enuff Already is not as black and white as it appears and that all parents out there have their own story and that it is not possible to make everyone aware of this, which as a result can mean bad judgements about people are made.

I''ve been posting on wiki on behalf of my fiance for about 18 months and received great advice but despite his constant battle to see his children, he has still been questioned and judged. We have been challenged and asked to justify our actions as why the ex has treated him this way. Surely he must have done something, right?!?! Wrong.

In relation to money, the ex has now started to try and complicate things because she''s received a phone call from the CSA asking her to verify the overnight stays in order to allow my fiance a reduction in his maintenance.

Apparently though, there are plenty of people on this site that give this ex the thumbs up and my fiance is the one that''s the ogre. :S

I am not saying that all women act in a vindicive manner. I have female friends who have had no end of problems with the father''s of their children in relation to contact and finances - these men are deadbeat dads.

I guess the moral of this story is to try and remain sensitive to everyone''s issues on this site. We will never all agree with one another and we''ll all have our own opinions on how best to handle situations but this is a difficult situation as it is and people can visit this site only to find themself feeling even worse than when they joined! Me being one of them this week.:blink:

The sun is shining though and I''m off out to play. Have a great weekend everyone :)

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25 May 12 #332946 by somuch2know2
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Ha.. she could have my whole pension if I got a great stake in the house (if that tells you how ''well'' mine is doing)

Pure dulusion and entitlement on my wife''s front. I have gone through every emotion with her and now I feel nothing. We had a good life financially but it was over-leveraged and far too dependant on my yearly bonus. I dont think she watches the news or reads the papers as she seems to turn a blind eye to the current economic climate.

the best thing I did was to prepare a spreadsheet with outgoings for both me and my wife- I can demonstrate just how ridiculous and her demands are by plugging and chugging. Should make it easier to come to some agreement as all the numbers are there..

Then its a few days to gain a contact order for my kids. And this is my biggest gripe. Women who demand men to support their children, but try and keep them from playing an active part. She has a solictor and barrister for that, I am self-repping. How hard can it be to gain access to the children I have love and supported for the past 17 years?

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