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23 Jun 12 #338611 by Wear Sunscreen
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You''re right, BoysMum. This is the money that I would use to get a flat suitable to have them stay with me regularl, go on holidays, etc etc...

It''s just frustrating that, all of the way thought this, we have both spent unnecessary amounts of money on every stage.

I see a way through this now so thanks to all for all your comments.:)

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23 Jun 12 #338612 by hawaythelads
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I don''t think on this simple a no brainer that it would cost you much at all.
She might even cave in prior to court.
Also on this matter you could self represent and avoid the solicitors costs.
All the best
Pete

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23 Jun 12 #338613 by Wear Sunscreen
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OK, I''ll give it a go. Many thanks, Pete

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23 Jun 12 #338615 by acfair
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Can I ask is it true that parents have no rights in law to see their children?

It is a very lucrative business for the legal profession - I have had 15 court appearances re contact. My ex-partner instigated the proceedings on legal aid. As their mother I felt I had to defend my children''s rights - so have self represented as I cannot afford legal assistance.

My two boys (4 and just 9) do not want to see their father and the eldest has been psychologically damaged by witnessing his father hitting and verbally abusing his mother. He was an alcoholic but seems to have many rights re legal aid.

Never mind the trauma and stress of the hearings, CAFCASS have also caused my child more stress by putting so much pressure on him to respond to indirect contact gifts etc - my son has now been referred to CAMHS!

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23 Jun 12 #338618 by Wear Sunscreen
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Others on here might be able to advise better, but I believe that parental responsibility defaults to the mother after divorce. This is why fathers tend to have to apply for contact.

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23 Jun 12 #338619 by MrsMathsisfun
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No Wear sunscreen that not true at all. PR remains the same whether you are married or divorced.

Its just that some PWC think that they have more ''''rights'''' than the NRP.

I think the law is actually more concerned with the ''''rights'''' of the children to have a relationship with both parents rather than the ''''rights'''' of the parent to remain in contact.

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23 Jun 12 #338628 by Wear Sunscreen
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Hi Mathisfun, Thanks for clarifying that. I didn''t actually see the bottom of acfair''s question and also thought that it defaulted to the mother. Acfair''s situation is very differnt to mine and I guess shows why it is diffcult to have a blanket agreement on what should happen after divorce.

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