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13 Jun 12 #336423 by jslgb
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I''ve just been told that my ex has been posting pictures on his facebook of a newspaper with the heading ''Prison threat to mothers who deny access to dads after a break-up'' with a caption by him saying ''about time....''

What a joke!!

Yes i have denied access on occasions, most recently being when he turned up on the wrong day and i had plans, and when the weather was really hot and he turned up with a dress 2 sizes too small and shoes 2 sizes too big, no suncream/hat/cardigan etc and a very bad attitude (last time this happen she got heat exhaustion and i had to take her straight to a&e and was ill for weeks so suffice to say i was concerned!)

Funny thing is, is that so far this year my daughter has missed every single birthday on her dads side because he hasnt made arrangements for her to be part of them. I asked him to pick her up half an hour later for a few weeks as she was having very early mornings during the week but not once did he arrange to drop her off later or has he taken his half hour back. My solicitor has sent several letters ''advising'' my ex on how to progress contact which have been ignored. Wont keep to a phone schedule even after promising our daughter he will. I''ve had to call the police more than once because he''s been at my door threatening me and wouldnt leave. My daughter has been brought home with concussion before now, a temp of 41, heat exhaustion and not fed all without even being acknowledged to me at handovers.

Yet he still see''s her on a weekly basis. How am i denying contact??

Even when she has plans with friends i swap days so he gets a full day.

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13 Jun 12 #336426 by WYSPECIAL
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Not seen it but the "Threat of prison" would be to people breaching court orders.

That possibility has always been there but in the case of a PWC who fails to comply with a contact order how many times do you think they would need to break the order and how non-compliant would they have to be before the court took such draconian action?

I don''t think you need to have an overnight bag ready at all times in the circumstances you have described!

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13 Jun 12 #336435 by jslgb
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Oh i am well aware of this option and how little it is used, as is my ex.

We went through this with is first wife and his solicitor told us how it was very unlikely that anything would come of it when his first wife refused contact for all kinds of things - including disappearing with his child for a long period of time.

You''d think he''d have learnt his lesson! At least with is eldest child he actually pursued contact through a solicitor, my child obviously isnt as important!!

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13 Jun 12 #336441 by WYSPECIAL
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So he doesn''t even have a contact order?

Sounds like one sad man. If his FB post wasn''t so pathetic it could appear to be bullying.

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13 Jun 12 #336442 by jslgb
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Nope, no contact order, has never tried to put anything in motion to increase contact or anything like that. At the moment he''s also ignoring my solicitors letters with regards to a divorce which if i''m right in thinking a divorce would actually give him a contact order?

And that comment wasnt nearly as bad as the one telling me to go f****** die a couple of weeks ago!!

Silly man.

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13 Jun 12 #336446 by WYSPECIAL
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jslgb wrote:

Nope, no contact order, has never tried to put anything in motion to increase contact or anything like that. At the moment he''s also ignoring my solicitors letters with regards to a divorce which if i''m right in thinking a divorce would actually give him a contact order?

Silly man.


No. Courts expect parents to sort out contact and where children live themselves. They will only make an order if asked to. In the divorce petition you will have to put the proposals for children which he can then comment on one.

If he wants a contact order he will have to apply for one.

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13 Jun 12 #336449 by jslgb
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Ahhhh right. So with regards to residence do i need to ask my solicitor to address this? I would like it in writing that i have residency should any situation arises where i would need to prove it.

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