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13 Jun 12 #336624 by help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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my daughter is 10 refusing to go to her dad there is a order in place!!!!
he left us for a what i thought was a very good friend!!!!!!!!
he never really spent time with her before he left, she is a grown up 10 yr old and to be honest is as big as me and im fed up with the s**t fits about having to go with him..

dont know what to do..

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14 Jun 12 #336631 by Fiona
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Why does she say she doesn''t want to go? At 10 years of age it''s usually a case of parents making decisions and pulling rank.

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14 Jun 12 #336641 by help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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She just doesn''t want to go he doesn''t do anything with her when she goes he questions her he has called her a liar, he never really did anything with when he was at home..he forced sale of house so we r now tecnically homeless and left us for someone who was meant to be our friend life was crap for 18 mths before he left!!!!

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14 Jun 12 #336711 by disneybunny
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How did he force the house sale was it by stopping paying or getting a court order? 10 year olds are old enough to understand what is happening and react. I was hoping a court would view them as old enough to be able to say what they wanted. My own 10 year old wants nothing to do with his father. So far my 15 year old has been told he can do what he wants but I''m still waiting on the courts to decide for the younger children. My poor 4 year old has no rights.

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14 Jun 12 #336718 by ozzywiz
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It is really difficult and you can only force them so far, my 7 year old daughter refuses to go with her mother for overnight stays but up to now I have managed to persuade her everytime so no contact yet lost. I explain that there is school time, dad time and mum time and it is now mum time. .

Also had one weekend that my 11 year old came home with her bags half way through contact saying she had an argument with her mum, she was upset so i let her stay with me. . . .

My advise is to find out why and although you cant dictate what the other parent does in their contact time try to ask them to make it more exciting. . time is usually a good healer if contact is encouraged. the 10 year old needs to know its part of their routine to go. .

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