I resently attended court, because my ex had stopped me seeing my 3 boys (aged 6,8 and 10). She was adamant that she was putting the kids back through the cascaff process, them having only just come out of it. She is so damaging that i asked the court to vary the order, so that I had no contact except for letter, giving her what she wanted, in order to give her time to calm down( she usally does and then contacts me offering kids). However my step children all attend the same school, and there is a play coming up. My children will be in it as will be my step children. The court order says No indirect contact except for letters) Will I be breaking the order by attending knowing that my children will be there? She will be looking for any excuse to try and have me for breach of court order. The order is very specific that there shall be no contact at all except for letters. I did see my son in the street 2 weeks ago and he shouted hello dad, so I did say hello back, as Im not going to ignore my own children, but 2 days later I had a soli letter saying that they had informed the police that i was in breach and if i did it again they should arrest me. Remember that It was me who asked the court for the order, not the court telling me.
Any help with the school plays woud be a great help.
I would suggest that yes it would be in breach of the order. Especially that a chance meeting in the street was viewed as such. You could contact the school and speak to the head to see what they say but i would expect them to say no.
Are you going back to court to vary your order? Even if your ex does calm down and allow contact at some point there is nothing to suggest she will not accuse you of breaching the order again.
Im hoping that in a few months she will of calmed down and let me see them again, then I shall apply to vary the order. She has Bipola, when she is on her meds i see kids when she is not i dont.I also tried to show this in court, but they didnt want to listen to that. The school have had enough of the situation now and arent helpful at all, and just ask that we put the kids first, which always means me giving in and not seeing them etc.
Just a thought, my school made a dvd of the play at Christmas, do you know if they might do it at yours? Or if you could get someone to record it for you? That way you get to see all the kids, which is sometimes what even PWC have to do if they can''t make the play. Perhaps in your next letter you could explain why yet couldn''t get to see it but you have a DVD to remember it forever.