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can shared residence work in this situ?

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20 Jun 12 #337783 by hattiedaw
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With all these new fangled terms (residence, not custody etc) I''m a bit dizzy!
What I''d like to ask is about shared residence.
Now if both parents live in the same town I see it as workable. They can share school runs, docs visits, dentist visits, brownies, cubs etc, having mates over for tea / sleepovers....etc
What happens though if one parent moves 100''s of miles away? How can they "share" responsibilities?
How can children who visit dad for example 1 weekend in a month make proper friends and in a childs mind a place they sleep at for 2 nights in every 30 isn''t really "home" is it?
I''ve only asked this as I''ve seen "shared residence" mentioned on here so many times and I''m really wondering is it just a fancy name for contact but makes the NRP feel like they have more than they do?

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20 Jun 12 #337831 by Fiona
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The law changed more than twenty years ago so the terms aren''t really new fangled at all.

Residence determines where a child lives and shared residence is when a child "lives" with both parents. Shared residence doesn''t have to be 50:50 it can be in different proportions. Indications of shared residence are children spending a substantial amount of time with each parent, parents living in close proximity of each other and school and a history of shared care.

There are cases when shared residence has been a couple of hours in a contact centre once a week or fortnight or where parents live a distance apart. In one case when parents lived a distance apart the children lived with the mother during school terms time and the father had the majority of the time during the school holidays .

Practically there isn''t really much difference between shared residence and the more traditional contact/residence. IT is actually Parental Responsibility that gives both parents equal responsibility and rights to carry out those responsibilities.

There are recommendations that in private cases at least there should be child arrangement orders and the terms residence, either sole or shared, and contact should be dropped as they create a sense of winning and loosing so the "new fangled" terms are likely to disappear.

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