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21 Jun 12 #338030 by Bobbinalong
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This is an issue of interpreting the contact order.
It says that the parent not having contact with the kids shall see them 4-6pm in the evening.
This friday is my sons birthday.
I have not seen the kids for two weeks other than 4 hrs last night.
When I picked kids up out the blue she said, dont forget your picking kids up at 6 on friday, I did say I had arrangemenst and would be there at 4, she just kept saying no, last year when it was daughters birthday on the monday, I took them to school as normal and didnt see her int he afternoon, I took it that I had seen them in the morning. As the mother this week, she sees them in the morning and fetches them from school, this at the end of a fortnight, but still wants to take 2 hours of me? I think its a bit unfair and taking an order to the letter.
She text then to say, ''the order clearly states the parent not having contact sees the kids from 4-6pm, so they are not available until 6pm.
I felt like texting back to say, ''the order does state that but this is for when the parent doesnt see the kids at all that day, any reasonable person would accept that they have the kids in the morning and have had them for two weeks, to then take two hours of a short weekend is a little unfair to say the least''

What do you think, or am I best just leaving it, I know I aint going to gain anything, but just wanted to make the point.

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21 Jun 12 #338036 by sexysadie
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Just leave it (you''re not going to win this one) but make sure you have the 4-6 and not just the morning next time.

best wishes,
Sadie

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21 Jun 12 #338038 by Bobbinalong
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yes, I had thought that, I know my ex at the time will say, no, you have already seen them in the morning, this will be in four years time, but thanks sadie

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21 Jun 12 #338061 by C. J.
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I can appreciate you are frustrated but I''d choose your battles wisely.

Like Sexysadie said you are not going to win this one but I certainly wouldn''t accept her dictating either. There is nothing wrong in getting your point across (they always do)but mind you if she''s anything like my fiance''s ex anything you do say will just be ignored anyway.

My fiance''s ex is terrible at interpreting the wording of the order to suit herself as well.

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21 Jun 12 #338066 by hawaythelads
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I can understand why she wants to see the kid from 4 to 6 on his birthday completely its his birthday and a rushed hour in the morning isn''t quality time.this is a first take a screen shot for a memento I''m in agreement with your ex on this one I don''t think she''s being unreasonable at all.
It''ll be great for the kid going home for his pressies and maybe a bit of party. With her and then you pick him up at six
Also that 4 to 6 is in that order mainly for your benefit so if u start fecking about u set a dangerous precedent that we can all start ignoring the contact order. When it suits and you know from history shell beat u hands down on that game .

All the best
Pete

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21 Jun 12 #338074 by Bobbinalong
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Thanks pete, I think I was more annoyed at being dictated too, once again when I picked the kids up instead of being a bit forwarned, you know, like reasonable people do, but then I am in fairy land with that one as far as my ex is concerned.
Your right in what you say, although if it were me... I would have done this on the thursday night, its going to be a bit rushed for them and then my son has to leave all his presents until next week, only to come to mine to open more?

The pitfalls of divorce and kids, two homes etc....

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21 Jun 12 #338085 by jellybean78
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I think you are licky- my ex wont allow me to see the child unless its 4-6pm as agreed...if the contact times dont work with her plans, she cancles them altogether for that day, and i have to wait until the next week.

Nice, huh?

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