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Ex present during SKYPE calls with kids!!!

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22 Jun 12 #338423 by Confused67
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Hi again all.

I just had my weekly SKYPE call with my children.

It has become a habit that their mother is ALWAYS there when I am on SKYPE with them. After 30 minutes she is asking my oldest son about the time every five minutes!!

Today, I couldn''t hear my daughter talking to me because my ex was talking with my son while I was trying to converse with my daughter. Previous weeks she would keep interrupting us to ask if her BF was on SKYPE yet.

What is this now? AM I not allowed to talk to my children without their other being present ALL THE TIME monitoring our discussions??

Last week my daughter gave her out when she pointed to a space that the camera could not cover and said: " mommy is THERE!".

I am dealing with a psychopath...

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22 Jun 12 #338424 by maisymoos
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Feel frustrated for you. I have a friend in a similar situation, every time he rings his son, the TV is turned up.

How old are your children? Skype can work but obviously not always. If your children are old enough why not try speaking to them on the phone one at a time. Ask them to go to another room if you cannot hear them.

I don''t think you should ask your ex to disappear, I think this would just antagonise things and she could just throw back at you "its my home, I live here" line!

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22 Jun 12 #338429 by Confused67
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Thank you maisymoos for your reply.

I want to see them, not only hear them but I guess your idea is good.

I do not understand why she would do this and I am a bit worried also because I cannot speak with my children freely.

How is her BF coming online more important than the 60 minutes a week with their dad?

Am I under supervised contact or something??

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22 Jun 12 #338476 by disneybunny
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I''m always around when my younger children are on the phone and certainly do not consider myself to be psyco. Getting a young child to hold a conversation is nigh on impossible even my nearly 11 year old gets bored quickly needing prompting to talk. If I walk of he just says bye and hangs up.

Mine are lucky enough not to be forced to speak to their father but if they were no way would they manage 60 mins.

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22 Jun 12 #338479 by BoysMum
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I experienced the same as Disneybunny. When my ex would call, it was very hard to get the children to hold a decent conversation with him. Often they would be more interested with what they were playing with or doing before he had called. Often, they would literally say 4-5 words before saying "bye".

I was always ''around'' when he called, as they wouldn''t talk if left to their own devices so i would find that by being there, and prompting them, they would speak for longer.

How old are the children?

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