Some of you advised re my post last week and the children being returned late from contact. I did as most suggested and sent a very polite letter to his solicitor asking him to remind his client of the terms and times of the most recent contact order (only drawn up two weeks ago). Well to no surprise did not receive a reply and the same has happened today. Nearly one hour late again. What do I do now? Eldest daughter(aged 10) arrived home very distressed. It appears that he believes that he can disregard and disrespect all members of society; that including the Judge who made the order but most of all the sadness and unhappiness it brings to his children. Any help as always gratefully received. Some of you will know my history; over three years/contested court hearings regarding contact now onto approx 15th court hearing. Unbelievable.
Difficult situation. My first response was to play him at his own game and mess with pick up times. But if your children are already struggling with contact thats probably not the best route to take. Is he contactable during this hour he is late? Is there ever an explanation?
I really dont have an answer. When my ex tried pulling this stunt i made it crystal clear if he continued contact would be stopped and it didnt happen again. Would that kind of threat work? In theory, he is breaking the contact order already so you could just say it was distressing your children so much you decided you wouldnt allow it to go on. I never had to actually carry out the threat, sometimes the words are enough.