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25 Jun 12 #339158 by zonked
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Well, how many weeks should a parent have to go without seeing their child. Two is prety bad. But three, that''s awful surely. Would you go three weeks without seeing your kids?

And what about things like attachment and continuity of parenting. That count for anything?

Of course there''s always the additional danger of increased parental conflict in the future when one party feels agreived or not listened to.

I think the issues are more complex than a fun weekend camping.

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25 Jun 12 #339161 by Lostboy67
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zonked wrote:

Well, how many weeks should a parent have to go without seeing their child. Two is prety bad. But three, that awful surely. Would you go three weeks without seeing your kids?

And what about things like attachment and contintuity of parenting. That count for anything?

Of course there''s always the additional danger of increased parental conflict in the future when one party feels agreived or not listened to.

I think the issues are more complex than a fun weekend camping.


You are correct, but it does depend on the level of contact outside of the weekends, my own situation is 50:50 care so there is plenty of continuity.

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26 Jun 12 #339178 by hawaythelads
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Jesus wept the kid went camping.
Dad was offered the next weekend as he wouldn''t have seen the kid.:blink:

To the op Don''t worry love he''s just having some minor paddy over feck all.
All the best
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26 Jun 12 #339180 by Lostboy67
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hawaythelads wrote:

Jesus wept the kid went camping.
Dad was offered the next weekend as he wouldn''t have seen the kid.:blink:

To the op Don''t worry love he''s just having some minor paddy over feck all.
All the best
HRH xx


You are as always right Pete.
It would be a joyous weekend with a kid that''s been told you can''t go camping because daddy says you can''t

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26 Jun 12 #339184 by Stingrayj
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zonked wrote:

Well, how many weeks should a parent have to go without seeing their child. Two is prety bad. But three, that''s awful surely. Would you go three weeks without seeing your kids?


How many weeks should a child go without seeing their parent? How about 3 years? Not all parents give a sh*t about their children whatever age they may be!
Sorry this just hit a nerve :(

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26 Jun 12 #339231 by Anjh77
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For information my son sees his dad every Wednesday as well as every other weekend. I try to give him advance notice of all activities including the camp. He had 2 months notice of the camp. The camp happens once a year. He still hasn''t responded to my texts about whether he wants contact this weekend.
I am trying my best. I work full time and have the majority of care.
Oh and he still hasn''t rang his son. But I suppose that will be my fault as well. :-(

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26 Jun 12 #339233 by BoysMum
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Anjh77,

In my opinion, you have been more than reasonable. At the end of the day, it was a yearly camping trip that your son wanted to go on. Like you said in a previous post, if it had fallen on your weekend, he still would have gone.

You offered to make up the contact time. You gave your ex 2 months notice, so your ex could have dropped off and picked up if he had wished to do so. The fact that he didn''t, beggers belief.

Carry on what you are doing, your doing a great job :)

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