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11 Jul 12 #342569 by ffc1991
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Cheers chamged the name always forget to double check my posts :/.

I don''t care how long it takes i''ll fight till the bitter end to have the realtionship with my daughter and for her to have one with me. I was originally only going to ask for fortneightly contact Thurs/Sun but as i''m no longer going to have to travel 200 miles to get to my daughter as i''m moving to where she lives to help my chances and make it easier i''m going to ask for fortneightly contact and in the week i dont see my daughter i''m going to ask for a day visit aswell. I know it may take time like you say but i''m only 21 got plenty of time lol.

Cheers for your response.

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11 Jul 12 #342570 by jslgb
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The fact that you have transferred uni''s and moved all that way to follow her shows your dedication!

Good luck with it :-D

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13 Jul 12 #342948 by BIGFOOT600
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Dear ffc1991

I am afraid what you have said is right. I am in the same position and it can o on a lot loner than 4 months. even with just accusations it is unfornunate for you that until every avenue is looked into if your ex and her solicitors request it your in for on hell of a ride. Be calm, if your on alcohol or drugs get off them now. All the best

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13 Jul 12 #342950 by ffc1991
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BIGFOOT600 wrote:

Dear ffc1991

I am afraid what you have said is right. I am in the same position and it can o on a lot loner than 4 months. even with just accusations it is unfornunate for you that until every avenue is looked into if your ex and her solicitors request it your in for on hell of a ride. Be calm, if your on alcohol or drugs get off them now. All the best


Well my EX hasn''t really made any accusations as such, just concerns to me being able to look after my daughter. Think it was 3 weeks ago when i last drank and never taken drugs in my life, but as stated this hasn''t be raised and I find it highly unlikely that they will. As bad as my EX is being I don''t forsee this at all.

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14 Jul 12 #343133 by ffc1991
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Well Saw my little lady today wasn''t even for an hour turnt out only 40 mins :/. Was quite hard tbh as unfortunately I could tell my daughter had no recollection of who I was which I doubt very hard to deal with. Obviously it''s only been 11 weeks but at such a you g age I didn''t really expect much difference.

What made it increasingly hard was that I could tell my Daugjter was getting distressed and missing her Mother. This is Ofcourse understandable. But puts me in a incredibly hard position now. Im due in court in a months time and will be fighting for longer periods of time with my daughter. People who have read my posts will know it''s a fairly straight forward case. I just can''t help but feel that I''m being selfish now by trying to take my daughter away for longer of she''s going to get distressed after 40 minutes. I travel 400 miles a day ATM to see my daughter so Ofcourse I would like more than the hour even If it was 40 mins.

Any advice?

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14 Jul 12 #343157 by sexysadie
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Of course it''s a problem now as your daughter doesn''t really know you. However, once you have more regular contact, and it goes on for longer, she will get used to you, particularly as she gets older. So you need to stick with it until she settles - but she will in the end.

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15 Jul 12 #343181 by u6c00
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Cafcass are able to facilitate contact if things are proving to be difficult.

When you speak to them you could explain the situation and ask if they are able to assign a family support worker to help.

Don''t give up! Children are remarkably resilient and I promise you that you''re not doing your daughter any harm by seeing her. It will take a bit of time but she will get used to the situation over time.

Best of luck

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