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Have Cafcass been in contact? I suspect they will need to do a safeguarding report which includes talking to both parents about their concerns, contacting the police about any criminal record and contacting social services to find out if the child is ''known'' to them.
In my case, my ex made a lot of accusations of alcohol/drugs/violence (untrue of course!) so Cafcass recommended supervised contact. In your case, if your ex is not making any such accusations then it seems that there wouldn''t be much reason for Cafcass to recommend supervision at all.
In your case, should you end up going to court and your ex is inflexible when it comes to the contact in negotiations, it may be worth refusing the offered 1 hour per fortnight supervised, and instead going in front of the magistrate/judge and letting them decide. If your ex can''t give any reason why it must be supervised, hopefully they will order in the interim that you have unsupervised contact, and maybe for longer. I don''t know whether this is good legal advice, maybe someone with more knowledge can say whether this is a good strategy and what the risks associated with it might be.
I remember reading an excellent post by someone who self-repped in a contact dispute. It contained the lessons learned at each stage. I will try and find it and post a link later.
ffc, looks like your stuck with this for now, you HAVE to keep your side clean and go along with whats arranged at present.
Have faith in the system, I did, when you get to court, are you self repping?, you know of course you dont dis the mother, you just put forward all your reasons for having more contact and building on it.
Remember there is no accusation or evidence that you are a poor parent, remember you re both equal, no reason why you cant have decent contact.
So, dont go there in court, dont enter into debate about your competence, it is not in question until you start responding to questions about it, so just go over it. Not an issue.
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