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A proper dad for my son

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09 Jul 12 #342124 by For real
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Do any of you struggling fathers out there want to be a dad to my boy as his father thinks 4 hours every other weekend is absolutely fine. Ideally you could have every other weekend from Friday through Monday (school pick up and drop off - would organise before and after school care if needed).. Then you could have mid week overnight inbetween (one or two nights depending on your commitments and sons commitments).. Two/three weeks in the summer, happy to share Christmas, Easter and birthdays, you can have unlimited telephone contact and if you have a treat lined up for him of course you can have him an extra day here and there and possibly for Auntie Ethels 90th birthday meal... Or am I being totally unreasonable and four hours every other weekend is perfectly acceptable.

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09 Jul 12 #342128 by Now Gone From Wiki
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4 Hours every other weekend? That sounds far too much. I would suggest he drops it to 1 hour every other month! ;)

In reality both your son and his dad are missing out and both will be hurt in the long run.

It could of course be that he is in pain and is trying to keep an emotional wall around himself to protect his emotions but I don''t know your situation or the personalities involved.

Not sure how to tackle this as I couldn''t see myself or anyone I know wanting to see so little of their children.

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09 Jul 12 #342134 by Mark100
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My ex wife would love him as long as he paid her a lot of money and got somebody else to make the children have as many handovers at hers as possible, just to upset them and make her feel great about herself that she is control.

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09 Jul 12 #342141 by James53
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4 hours every other week end seems ok to me. Far more time than my kid''s struggling mother sees them.
They are lucky if they see her 4 hours every month.

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09 Jul 12 #342143 by wmorris2
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For real wrote:

Do any of you struggling fathers out there want to be a dad to my boy as his father thinks 4 hours every other weekend is absolutely fine. Ideally you could have every other weekend from Friday through Monday (school pick up and drop off - would organise before and after school care if needed).. Then you could have mid week overnight inbetween (one or two nights depending on your commitments and sons commitments).. Two/three weeks in the summer, happy to share Christmas, Easter and birthdays, you can have unlimited telephone contact and if you have a treat lined up for him of course you can have him an extra day here and there and possibly for Auntie Ethels 90th birthday meal... Or am I being totally unreasonable and four hours every other weekend is perfectly acceptable.


Sounds like a fair cop to me - sign me up!

His dad is a ***** - sorry but he is. I''d murder for 1 hour a year with my children. And I am NOT kidding :(

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09 Jul 12 #342188 by Deedum
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Although it''s not ideal, it is regular contact and I assume he is reliable with those 4 hours.

Sadly there are a lot of children who do not see their dads at all so please don''t think you have the worst scenario.

Also, if you pressure your son''s dad into seeing him more it may backfire and he ends up seeing him less.

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09 Jul 12 #342199 by wmorris2
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Well if he does lets hope the court gives him a slap with this new law coming out. And my ex while they are at it!

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