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13 Jul 12 #342990 by WhiteRose
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The thing is that you may never convince her that you are competent enough. :(So with people that will not see your point of view, you can either spend a lot of effort bending yourself over in an effort to change their mind, or the Court will simply make an order for you to achieve what you want to achieve (what is in the best interest for the child) and whether she likes it or agrees with it, she has to abide by it.

So, you don''t need to make her look bad to get the contact you want, you just need to ensure you look good. Counter ever allegation or concern with empathy but a strong enough statement that your top priority is your daughter and you want that contact, you are prepared to accept your daughters daily schedule and are fully capable of adhering to it.

Propose a pilot or trial basis that can prove you are able to do this.

If you are positive and come back with positive workable solutions - what can they say? Don''t ummmmm or ahhhhhhh or ''maybe'' or ''probably'' etc. be definite.

TBH - it may get to Court and none of this gets discussed, the Judge may look at her concerns and dismiss them immediately, but its always worth being prepared.

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13 Jul 12 #343047 by ffc1991
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Cheers WhiteRose

My EX partner had agreed at mediation that she would email me by tonight telling me if she had managed to sort anything for this weekend regarding extra contact. This shows once again that she just says sheel do things and actually never carries them out. Seriously don''t see the point in mediation it''s costing me £400+ each session after travelling, time off work, accommodation etc. and she can''t even stick to a simple email.

I was sent the minutes from Mediation today which states everything she said including giving me this email buy tonight. Can anyone confirm to me that I cant refer to these minutes in court?

Thanks

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14 Jul 12 #343134 by ffc1991
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]Well Saw my little lady today wasn''t even for an hour turnt out only 40 mins :/. Was quite hard tbh as unfortunately I could tell my daughter had no recollection of who I was which I doubt very hard to deal with. Obviously it''s only been 11 weeks but at such a you g age I didn''t really expect much difference.

What made it increasingly hard was that I could tell my Daugjter was getting distressed and missing her Mother. This is Ofcourse understandable. But puts me in a incredibly hard position now. Im due in court in a months time and will be fighting for longer periods of time with my daughter. People who have read my posts will know it''s a fairly straight forward case. I just can''t help but feel that I''m being selfish now by trying to take my daughter away for longer of she''s going to get distressed after 40 minutes. I travel 400 miles a day ATM to see my daughter so Ofcourse I would like more than the hour even If it was 40 mins.

Any advice?

Sorry for grammar on iPhone with cracked screen.

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