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14 Jul 12 #343074 by msmouse
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I am at a loss. I was having problems off my ex husbands fiance so much so that I felt that I should leave the area and get some distance. Last time my ex and I spoke on the phone he was telling me he was taking me to court so that a judge could force us to use a contact centre so that he would not have to see me. I have never stopped contact since we split up 2 yrs ago. He just isnt ''allowed'' to see me. I sought legal advice and was assured that a judge would not agree to his demands.

I can only assume that his solicitor said the same as his mum then got in touch and offered to be the go between so that we didnt have to see each other. He is a police officer and has changed jobs so now has another rota, i was told what days he would have the kids only to be given another rota off his mum a few days later. Currently he has not seen his kids for ten days. He is also only seeing them for 24 hours at a time and as they are 4 and 5 and attend nursey/school he doesnt have long with them.

I am also having to drop the kids off at his mums at a time that suits her for her to return them at a convenient time for her. She is only willing to pass on his messages, my questions remain unanswered as she doesn''t want the ''pressure''. I try and maintain a good relationship with his parents for the kids sake and i feel that its not fair that he has put her in this situation.

I want him to see his kids but it is all about him and his shifts i have no routene and cant make plans as i dont even get a say in what time they go or come back.

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14 Jul 12 #343124 by MrsMathsisfun
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Do you have a solicitor?

I would suggest getting a letter written stating that whilst you understand that contact needs to be flexible due to work commitments, the children need more stability.

If you have a copy of his rota I would forward a plan of when contact should take place with times etc and stick to those times.

Your ex fiancée sounds like my ex husbands new wife. My ex wasnt allowed to ''''talk to me either''''

I think you need to take control of the situation a bit more. Its only hard the first time honest it gets easier, especially when they realises your not going to allow yourself to be walked over.

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