ARGH, back on after trying my hardest to play nice.
I have 2 Boys 4 & 5 years
Current Contact arrangements, I have them every other weekend and Tuesdays. Not legally binding painfully worked out between us. I have my very own shift pattern at work to accommodate this that has restricted my ability in lateral moves and promotion otherwise it''d be inconsistent and rare that I could see them.
Sisters getting married, got a stag do coming up. It lands on my weekend.
Mum and Sister step in to take them out for the weekend lots of fun planned
Ex finds out and has put her foot down. Not allowed. She spewed out some BS about consistent contact with me only.
Is there any case law about on my contact days I can decide who looks after them? Looks like I''ll be booking a court room
It is up to you what happens to the children on your contact days - and being looked after occasionally by family is no bad thing anyway. But without a contact order she can more or less do what she likes. Could you offer to swap weekends with her?
Not allowed.. It is allowed, you have parental responsibility too. Does the mother NEVER leave the children with any of her family?
Unfortunately sadie is right, there isn''t a great deal you can do without an order and that is a significant point. Without an order you''ll always be following orders, rules. That''s something worth considering.
In the meantime explain to her that you have an agreement and you wish to stick to it and the kids can a weekend with there gran and aunty if she refuses then you need to decide if you''re spending the next 10 years following her rules or getting a court order.
Not being funny but i''d see my a*se too in that situation.
Maybe i''d handle it differently but if my stbxh was going out and leaving my daughter with family members i would rather swap and spend that time with my child and let her see her dad when he is actually around. Especially if stbx was keeping these plans from me.
But then i''m not totally unreasonable that he wouldnt approach me to swap i guess - although he''d probably say different, everything appears differently in his head!!