Contact Orders & CAFCASS- Help Please

Hi All

It may be that I apply for contact order to be put in place after contact arrangements with Ex husband in seeing children and his behaviour.
Are becoming increasing worrying to myself and confusing, stressful to the children their own words to their school councellor.

Please any advice

Maybe it would be better if you could provide with a bit of background on your case and maybe ask specific questions?

This will give us a bit more information and questions are easier to answer, too.

But first of all relax and take a deep breath.
Everything will be fine.

Hi all was married for over 10 years, seperated for 5 years divorce from February 2012.
Ex husband started divorce proceedings and his attuide to our son age10 and daughter aged 9, has taken quite a change has had quite been strained, his behavior has esclated since march onwards this year which has been recognized by their school councilor.
Monday evening he was becoming quite frustrated to the children an in their own words confusing, they have reported they are feeling very stress. I am more the happy children they see their father but he has letters written by myself and my solictor regarding his behavior to the children as verbal this is harming them emotionally

Hope that is some back ground

What are the existing arrangements and what do you hope to achieve?

I would hope the contact the children have is less stressful as they have reported it is not when they are with their father.
He his less aggressive in his behavior and language. I am aware if he could he would have them every other weekend but his current work rota for the forseable future he reports is spandarix and he can see the chuldren every three weeks to longer, at times he has canceled in the past to suit his own social life.
I would prefer he would have acesss limited or supervised until he can managed his anger/ fustaration out as the children are becoming increasly stress and want to limit their contact with him as they find it all to much and making themselves sick.

I meant his very agressive in his behavior and language

I''m not too clued up on the way things work with court but i do believe your children have reached an age where their feelings and wishes will be considered.

I seem to remember being told that there isnt any point in the RP taking the NRP to court as there is nothing to guarantee the contact order will be stuck to. If the NRP initiates the hearing it at least shows willing on their part to want contact. If your ex husband doesnt take you to court for contact would he really stick to any arrangements made if you took him to court? You cant force him to have contact.

You also cannot change your ex husbands behaviour to your children so supervision until he can manage his anger will probably not work.

Have you spoke to your children about contact and how they want to approach it?