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21 Jul 12 #344488 by ozzywiz
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New one for me,

Just really looking for opinions and to share with you all whats going on. .

For those that dont know I have full residence of 5 young kiddies, mother has a good defined contact ordered by court but we are both now flexible in regards to birthdays and parties and other special days and the childrens feelings and we do communicate on arrangements and medication etc.

We been through a huge court battle to get to were we are now with many welfare issues arrising from the mothers ability to care and cope.

anyways, my children have come home to say she is now pregnant, my reservations are will my kids get pushed out and she wont want to know them and also could she later use the new child as a reason for applying for residence again, saying sibblings need to stay together.

My children came home excited saying they getting a new sister or brother, and it was full sis or bro cause it was from the mother and if i ever have a child it will only be half cause from the dad. . .

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21 Jul 12 #344492 by sexysadie
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To be honest I try and ignore the half/full sibling distinction as it is certainly nicer for my children (ow nand step) to think of each other as full siblings, even if strictly they aren''t.

I don''t think your ex will have a case for residence on the basis of keeping your lot with the new one. She lost that ages ago and why would a new baby make it easier to cope with the other five?

Of course the children are excited at the moment but it won''t last forever. Just be supportive of their contact with the new baby and carry on doing your own good parenting job.

Best wishes,
Sadie

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21 Jul 12 #344511 by ozzywiz
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Thanks Sadie, my thoughts exactly but somtimes its best to hear it of somone else too . .

I totally agree no need to ever use the half word and to my eldest daughter I told her its a sister or brother and no need to say half, but i also corrected her that if I had a child I would be no lesser a brother or sister (haha im defo having no more single dad forever) . .

and I will always support a relationship between the children and their respective families.

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21 Jul 12 #344525 by jumpingthroughhoops
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Hi ozzywiz.
My ex ex had a new baby and tried to use that to reduce contact but judge. She told told judge she wanted all siblings together, judges responses "you should have stuck with just one father then". So you shouldn''t have much to worry about there.

I agree with Sadie, a brother or sister is exactly that, never half. My two now even view my stepson as there brother as they grew up with him from baby, kids tend to decide for themselves in the end anyway.

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21 Jul 12 #344545 by ozzywiz
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thanks Jumping (just clicked your thanks button haha ) your so right kids will decide themselves what they feel comfortable with.

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