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25 Jul 12 #345263 by redroxy82
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Hey everyone,
We have a contact order in place for my 2 girls and it fits around their nursery times and my ex''s shifts.
However from Sep my eldest starts school so the Contact Order will be irrelevant.
I do not get legal aid and still owe my solicitor money so he won''t help me.
Do I need to go to Court for a new order or what do I do??
He currently has them one weekend a month and 2 midweek nights o/n but once she''s at school I think o/n in the week is too much.
Is one weekend a month enough??
I really don''t know how to move forward from here. Not getting legal aid is killing me and I feel so trapped as there is nothing I can do as I can''t afford anything :unsure:

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25 Jul 12 #345268 by jslgb
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How about you wait it out and see how things go for now? Starting school is a huge change for children, and maybe taking away a routine where she stays with her father during the week may cause more disruption.

A contact order wont necessarily need changing if you can agree the changes between yourselves. Perhaps if things dont work out once your daughter goes to school you could adapt it to every other weekend friday evening till monday morning drop off at school? I think to drop from 10 o/n''s a month to just 2 wouldnt be beneficiary for either your daughter or your ex.

I''d suggest you see how things go for now.

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25 Jul 12 #345271 by redroxy82
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Thanks for your reply.
The problem I have with every other w/e is stbx works shifts, 2 w/e on and 2 w/e off so he really only has 2 free a month but wants one to go out etc.
Might have to reconsider midweek and like you say just see how it goes.
That is why only 1 weekend is practical.
I also have the Contact Order as there is a power of arrest on it if he doesn''t return them which is likely to happen.
He has been violent in the past and always with the children present, that is why the contact order is in place, I would not feel comfortable with him having them without one.

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