Fuming does not even cut it. He admits to hitting, biting me, injuring my son and the courts still awarded unsupervised access. To top it off I have to take the children to and pick them up from said access.
Middle son is deverstated, oldest has been granted the freedom not to go. As for the youngest god help , if he knows he can get away with abusing a grown woman what chance does a tiny little girl stand.
Sorry if it doesn''t help but by means of explanation the courts weigh any harm children may suffer from abuse against the harm they suffer when they don''t have a meaningful relationship with the parent. Therefore when the risk of abuse is low level contact is likely to happen.
When you say he injured your son do you mean a son you had together or was this a son from a previous relationship?
I cannot believe that someone who has admitted violence gets unsupervised and yet CAFCASS will only give me supervised access. They even went to far as telling me in the interview that supervised access was usually only given to men who had charges pending or convictions for assault or abuse and that I need not worry.
No-one can believe it. CAFCASS have been dismissed in favour of a section 7 I think or was it 37. No wishes and feelings have been done, no-one has contacted the schools, the health visitor or anything. I have cried buckets, the kids have cried and son still says he is not going.
How the hell can this happen. I accept that he has only hit me and oldest and we are both free to not see ex but still WHY?
Middle son is under a CAF with the school because of the emotional abuse that ex has heaped on us. The schools advised no contact, the PSA assured me the children would be listened to.
I have spent the afternoon ringing round pulling people in to help but by the time the schools go back it will be too late. I am supposed to protect my children, I couldn''t protect myself against him, my baby nearly died because he hit me when pregnant. Why havn''t my medical records been pulled. If he attack the kids I''m not even there to take the brunt of it, how can I live with myself for letting this happen.
So is this an interim order? Is there to be a finding of fact hearing? If there are allegations of DV a judge will have difficulty in choosing between the two sides of a story unless there is independent professional evidence e.g. from the police or social social services.