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03 Aug 12 #347174 by rasher
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It sounds like he has reneged on his part of the bargain about pick up times it doesnt mean to say you have to worry about your side (collection time) how old are the children? Are you flying or travelling in the country?

Dont ask him if hes going to honour the arrangement - just remind him thats whats been agreed and you have the email proof to show for it - therefore he will be liable for any costs if he disrupts the holiday and forces you into court for a defined contact order.

Reading between the lines - hes messed up his own arrangements on pick up, couldnt come clean to you because you battled together in the first place - try not to get into silly arguments which lead to petty strikes on his part. He knows you have a holiday and he would be mighty silly to mess with it esp as it would mean it would have to take care of the kids for an extra period if you followed through and went without (dont be afraid to call his bluff sometimes you have to draw the boundaries very firmly to nip this sort of nonsense in the bud).

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03 Aug 12 #347184 by MrsMathsisfun
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Is friday usually a switch over day?

Did the ex want the holiday contact to run from Saturday to Saturday. Is this his way of getting what he wanted?

Sorry you are having such a hard time. It so difficult when you feel powerless and the other side seen to just do what they want.

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03 Aug 12 #347200 by survive
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Contact normally runs from whoever weekend it was and follows on from there, which would be Friday. All the dates were clearly put in an e.mail, which took lots of to ing and fro ing, but eventually was agreed (or should I say, not disputed)


Yes, this is probably ex''s way of getting what he wants. It will cost me £90.00 to make a court application, urgently.

I have checked with the holiday company, which is in this country they said I can switch over to a Saturday with no extra cost. So I have text ex to say I am now not bothered either way and will save myself £90.00

What the worry is he has not confirmed either way which day I can collect my children. So I am in the dark. It is all part of his power and control games.

This will continue again and again, so part of me thinks just to go to court to stop him, then the other part is just agree as either way, he hasn''t now ruined our holiday, which I thought earlier.

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03 Aug 12 #347202 by hawaythelads
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Should''ve kept that info to yourself Survive about it not bothering you.
If he''s a control freak he''ll try and move goalposts again to feck you up.
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03 Aug 12 #347203 by dukey
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Maybe pick your battles, this one may not be that easy to win, what maybe worth thinking about is further defining the order when it suits you, time is short for this one, you could end up sitting in court for lord knows how long only to be told make an on notice application, or worse they won''t here it as ex parte.

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03 Aug 12 #347205 by survive
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I think this is going to get worse and worse. Now I don''t know if my holiday is Friday to Friday, as agreed or Saturday. I need to let the campsite know either way and he is not replying!!!!!!!!!!!

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03 Aug 12 #347207 by MrsMathsisfun
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Take control of the situation. Make the holiday saturday to saturday and return the children late if necessary.

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