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12 Aug 12 #348994 by minxy1912
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Hiya,i was wondering at what age a judge would grant a father over night acsess?? and how many nights??? iam asking for a friend, she has a 9 month old baby and dosnt want to be away from him for 2 nights, would a court understand this?

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12 Aug 12 #348999 by ffc1991
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It doesen''t matter what your friend wants or even what your friends partner wants. It''s always whats best for the baby/child. However from what I understand courts dont tend to like to offer overnight stay with young babies. But every situation is different.

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12 Aug 12 #349000 by minxy1912
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thank your for your reply,do you know what age a judge would grant overnight acsess?

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12 Aug 12 #349007 by ffc1991
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There isn''t a law or w.e saying this is the age it differs case to case. From what iv''e heard and read they dont tend to do it often but iv''e read articles and case stories where it has been granted. If the baby is being breast fed then obviously overnight stays is virtually impossible. But if the Dad has been in the baby''s life from day 1 and has a good connection and the dad is capable to look after his son/daughter for 1 night then why not?

If your friends argument is that she doesen''t want to be away from baby for 2 nights it isn''t a very strong argument. As i said it don''t matter what your friend wants or what her partner wants it''s what''s best for the baby and if they can''t decide between themselves then suppose it''s up to a judge to decide :(.

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12 Aug 12 #349011 by mumtoboys
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my third child was born after my ex and I had split up. CAFCASS recommended overnight access from 13 months. However, he was breastfed and I think if this hadn''t been the case, because of the fact we had two other children, I think that the recommendation would have been earlier.

The argument ''I don''t want to be away from the child'' isn''t a good one. If the baby is difficult to settle, wakes regularly in the night, that kind of thing then it would probably be easier to argue that it would be in his interests to stay with mum for the time being. However, there does come a point where you need to bite the bullet and let them go and having been through it, I would say the earlier the better for all concerned. Dad''s are perfectly capable of dealing with overnight traumas, after all!

is the baby seeing dad at all? he is at the separation anxiety stage so it would be best for the child if he was used to seeing dad regularly and so became all flappy and happy to be handed to him rather than screaming blue murder!

It''s tough when they''re little. Send your friends some hugs from me and tell her she will get used to being away from the little one and after a while, she may even quite enjoy a night off!

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12 Aug 12 #349018 by minxy1912
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thank you all,we have told her exactly the same,she not stopping dad contact,but contact has to suit him all the time,this is her problem. thanks for your advice.hopfully they can work through it.xx

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