This is my 1st time on here and I am looking for some advice please. I have recently seperated from my x and we have 3 children together. Access was agreed early on however after a bad visit he has refused to see them for the last week or explain to them the reasons why. Last week he went to see a Solicitor and I had a proposal from him yesterday evening. He wants me to share responsibility of transporting the children to his on weekends. Is this normal? I haven''t had any maintenance from him for 2 months and I always thought it was normal for the father to collect and return the children. Other peoples experiences would be appreciated!
It is the responsibility of both parents to ensure contact is facilitated.
What is the distance between you and the children''s father? If it is a long journey, then you could meet at a suitable half-way point, or each do a journey one-way; ie you drop them off, and he returns them.
I appreciate it is both parents responsibility but while he has contributed nothing towards the bills or the children I am not in a position to afford the petrol. He says he is going to pay maintenance at the end of the month but as he is self employed I doubt this will be reflective of what he actually earnt. Cash can be lost easily!
It is not a long journey, only 15 minutes and it is him that has chided to make contact difficult. Both myself and the children want them to see him
If the journey is only 15 minutes it is very highly unlikely that you''ll be told to do half the journey. These kind of arrangements are genuinally done on long distance circumstances.
Going down the route of not driving to allow him contact is fine imo if he''s not paying towards stuff then he can''t expect you to to pay for petrol etc. But just be very careful about completely stopping contact because of no maintenance, not suggesting you would but you read alot of stuff along the lines of '''' He doesen''t pay for his child so why should he see them'''' the 2 aren''t linked.
However he''s being pretty unreasonable if you ask me I currently do 10 hours on trains in 1 day to see my daughter for 1 hour, id kill to make that to a 15 minute lol.