Thanks Khan & Minxy,
Let me make it very clear that I do not ever make inflammatory comments, derogatory comments about their mum or bad mouth her.
I always try to ask about their day, their schoolwork etc. however, occasionally this means broaching subjects which she doesn''t think should be discussed.
You''re right Minxy, I don''t have anything to hide, she however, does, so when I speak openly she doesn''t like it.
For example, recently, she withheld access meaning the kids didn''t come on holiday with me; of course, the next time I spoke to them they wanted to know what had happened. She had spun a web of lies & wanted to make sure it didn''t come unravelled & so as soon as one of the kids asked a question pertain gto the holiday she barks in the background ''that''s not for you to talk about'' & '' stop involving the children in matters that are between us''.
Now, as far as I''m concerned, if my child asks me a question they have a right to an open & honest answer. It is awful trying to have a conversation wi my children when she is banging & shouting in the background. Also, having to watch every word in case she doesn''t like something I say is unbelievable. It is also extremely upsetting for the children to have the phone ripped from them & the conversation with their father terminated because their mother doesn''t like something which has been said.
She is a control freak & it is painfully clear that the children are the only thing that she can use to control me.
I just wanted to know if when my contact case comes to court, if a judge will grant private conversations with my children as part of the agreement as this can''t continue for the next 12 years.