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Eldest child refused to go on contact.

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16 Aug 12 #349839 by ozzywiz
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Just wanna share this with you all for thoughts.

I have res of 5 kids with a defined contact order.

kids age, 3,6,7,9,12.

Contact is for summer hols wed-thurs and some weekends running on a 4 week cycle.

but in summer hols a full 7 days uninterupted.

they had there 7 days a 2 weeks ago, then came back to me and had their full weekend contact then now it is wed-thurs contact but the 12 year old refused to go, she says she is homesick and misses her routine and wants to stay home letting her sibblins go.

She has a real mature head on her and spoke to her mother about this and spoke to me. her mum said its fine whatever she wants. I had a good chat with her and explained to her she should go but her choice. . she not gone. . is this breaking a court order and what are the implications. .

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16 Aug 12 #349882 by jaw
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I have to say, in my experience, as they get older priorities do change. Obviously younger children need the regular, frequent contact.

If all parties are happy I don''t see where the harm is. Some degree of change is naturally going to occur as your children mature.


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16 Aug 12 #349898 by ffc1991
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If both parties are happy with it then there really isn''t a massive problem. In fact i''d go to say that it''s a good sign that both parents are taking the childs wishes into account without any accusations of either parent twisting and influencing the childs decisions.

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17 Aug 12 #350071 by ozzywiz
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Thanks for the replies.

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