Has any NRP applied for residency and got it?

Hi,

Just wondering and trying to find out a bit more about the options for applying for residence. Whether there are NRPs who have applied for residence and what were the reasons for it.

Thank you

Yes, there are cases on WV where fathers have residence. Usually it''s because the mother left and didn''t take the children with them, the children are old enough for their views to be taken into consideration, the father is better placed to care for the children or because the children were found not to be surviving satisfactorily.

It''s always an uphill struggle though changing the existing arrangement because it''s generally accepted that disrupting a child''s sense of security and established bonds isn''t in the best interests of children.
That means the biggest obstacle fathers face being the main carer of children after parents separate is them not being the main carer before separation.

I wasnt the main carer for our children before seperation as I always worked but ive never been a NRP, my ex had an affair and one day announced she was moving out of the FMH to be with him, my first question was "what about the kids" her reply was "i dont know I just want to go" . . she packed her bags and left and I was left with a 10 month old baby and 4,5,6 and 9 year old. I didnt really know what to do too much but quickly learned and got them in a good routine.

Long story so wont go on but bug court battle commenced and I now have full residence of the 5 kids and all are happy with mother having a good contact order.

Hi Twilight

I guess the lack of replies in 5 days gives you your answer, as Fiona says it can happen but its probably as rare as hens teeth!

Teepee wrote:

Hi Twilight

I guess the lack of replies in 5 days gives you your answer, as Fiona says it can happen but its probably as rare as hens teeth!

I don''t think it''s possible to read too much into the lack of replies. It might just be that fathers who are parents with the majority of care are relatively satisfied and don''t feel the need to visit forums such as WV. Alternatively they may be busy juggling full time inflexible jobs and child care so they don''t have a lot of time to post.

Hi

I had 50:50 care or SR unoficially for a long time and I kept the family ghome when ex moved in with her mum. After some time she went to the CSA and decided to reduce my nights with the kids. I couldn''t resolve it so went to court and ended up with one night a week, although I have them until bed time three other nights a week.

A nice unsettling routine for the kids that fits around mum''s part time job.

I am going for SR again as the Childrens Legal Centre have stated I do half of everything and seem to have SR but just have to take them to their mum''s to sleep (even when she is not there) and that this is odd and very unsettling!

Hopefully the Judge will be fairer than the FPC court!

Cheers Mark