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18 Aug 12 #350399 by tinkerbell1606
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Dd has returned from holiday without her passport. She asked her dad for it before he dropped her home & he said he''d put it away and mum doesn''t need it!
Daughter lives with me full time, no contact between me & stbx at all.
Did leave a ( very polite) message asking for it to be returned, but what do I do if he''s not forthcoming? Don''t want any hassle or to antagonise him,he doesn''t need any help being angry!
Any suggestions?
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18 Aug 12 #350401 by Action
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How old is your daughter?

I think legally the passport belongs to the state so you could try phoning the passport office and see what they advise.

Small minded idiot he sounds!

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18 Aug 12 #350405 by mumtoboys
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sounds like a control issue...if you don''t actually need it for now, maybe just ignore it and see what happens...It might just make it''s way back to you if it''s not causing the reaction he was hoping for.

Does he have any connections abroad you''re worried about? no concerns he''ll abscond one weekend with your daughter? not made threats along this line in the past at all?

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18 Aug 12 #350407 by soulruler
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How pathetic; got drawn into somewhat similar circumstance in the last.

Ignore it for now; why do you need a passport?

If in the future you do need it you will need to write to him asking for a return and if he fails to respond or say it is lost you have reason for re-issue of a new passport.

I know it is important for you now but in the bigger scheme of things totally purile.

Clear your mind and realise what a txxxt he is.

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18 Aug 12 #350420 by tinkerbell1606
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Thanks for replies wiki peeps, I have no doubt that this is small minded, controlling & game playing. A timely reminder of why I am divorcing him, not that I needed one!
Will contact passport office and see what they advise, feel sure he''s expecting me to ask my solicitor to write to him, but already wasted 10''s of 1000''s in futile correspondence.
Just wish he wouldn''t do this to our daughter, completely insensitive to her feelings,oops there I go again expecting him to change, not a snowballs chance!
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19 Aug 12 #350478 by staffydog
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My thought were the same as a previous poster, why do you need the passport? If you have a holiday booked then fair enough. It either belongs to your daughter or the state, does it matter who''s drawer it is kept in until it is needed?

As for a control issue, that''s a two way street, is it not also a control issue you asking for it back when you don''t need it either, you clearly want to be in control of the passport.

You''re right that these things are not fair on your daughter, so don''t involve her in them and how is him keeping it insensitive to your daughters feelings, does it really matter to your daughter where the passport is or could it be that she is more worried about your reaction by not bringing it back?

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19 Aug 12 #350483 by tinkerbell1606
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Stuffy dog, really?
I have not involved my daughter, and have no intention of doing so. I want to book a holiday and therefore do need the passport.
My intentions are without malice, and with no other information on my particular situation, i have no problem with him having the passport when he needs it, at this point he clearly does not.
My daughter is unable to express her feelings around her dad as he has been very difficult from the outset, it was sensible adult advice I was in need of, not a judgement call.

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