Can I ask......what made you go for the formality of a shared residence order? I consider that my ex and I have shared residency (4 nights me, 3 him every week), obviously not on a 50:50 basis because I feel I am in a better position to do the doctors, dentists part of the caring role as I did all that when we were together anyway, this is an informal agreement we have always had and I can''t see it being changed so don''t feel it necessary to go down the formal route.
I also wouldn''t say we have a brilliant relationship either, well not since the girl friend came on the scene and put a spanner in the works but we know which nights are ours. I am trying to change the contact nights so I get them for more quality time (he has them every weekend due to previous job role that he no longer does) so we are trying mediation as he isn''t allowed to speak to me on a normal basis. Just giving that info so you understand the relationship we have with each other is quite fraught but I still don''t feel the residency needs to be made formal so wondered why you did?
I''m also not opposed to making it more formal if that''s what he wishes, who knows what he feels? Might find out as I know she''s allowed him to sit across the table from me in mediation
I wish my ex. dil could read your post yummy-mummy. She will do whatever it takes to ensure that everything goes her way. The love the children have their father cuts no ice with her, in fact, if anything it is an irritation to her.
If all mums had your caring and thoughtful attitude there would be no need for lengthy and costly Court appearances. Children need love and security from both parents, they don''t need to be caught in the middle of a battlefield.