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23 Aug 12 #351336 by Now Gone From Wiki
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8 Weeks ago today my ''wife'' ran away from a safe and loving family home to an unknown location. She took my then 11 year old (now 12 year old) son. She changed location at least once in this time and I think the council are helping to hide her, meaning she has told them she has been ''abused''. There has been no abuse at all though but I realise the council have a duty of care. My wife also had a thyroidectomy at the beginning of May that I think may play a part.

Since that time she has blocked my son from speaking to anyone - including her mum, me, his cousins etc. She kept him out of school for the last three weeks of term. She has prevented him from visiting any of his family. My only communication with him has been via text message (which I am sure she is vetting). Even so he has said he is sad, misses me, wants to see me, is thinking of me and doesn''t like not being able to do the things we had planned over the summer such as camping, seaside trips etc. My ''wife'' also hasn''t spoken a word to me, her mum or anyone else I know.

The problem is no one seems to care. The school have contacted ''Education Welfare''. Our doctor does not believe she is ill or unwell. The Police say my son is ''safe'' but do not care about emotional abuse. Social Services don''t care because the police and the doctor don''t care. The courts are taking their time as if they don''t care too. Even the NSPCC can''t act on text messages they tell me.

Does no one care about my 12 year old boy who loves his father and is unhappy about being kept away from his family?

She didn''t even let her own mum talk to her grandson on his birthday and I still have a stack of presents in my house for him as I had no where to deliver them. She also likes to torture me further by turning his phone off for days at a time.

Please tell me this will help me to get residence or at least shared residency? I just cannot believe that someone can be so wicked to a child and no one cares about it because he is "physically" safe.

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23 Aug 12 #351386 by Enuff Already
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Mark I think its an Absolute disgrace that you have not seen your son in almost 2 months and that no one is doing diddy squat about sorting it. The court process is slow and very protracted, but one thing I am 100% sure of is that your sons mother is sealing her own fate with regards to her relationship with your son. From your posts it is clear your son loves and misses you and the longer she keeps him away the more rebellious he will be as he gets older. He will use this against her time and time again in the future. Be patient, play the long game.. sorry this might not be what you wanted to hear.

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23 Aug 12 #351389 by Now Gone From Wiki
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Thanks EA

I know it is a long game. Tough to keep going sometimes.

Mark

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23 Aug 12 #351395 by soulruler
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How horribly sad. I think that you need to keep contacting the social services and keep contacting your doctor (really to establish just how emotionally draining this is on you).

Also, if you have contact with the other people mentioned encourage them to make their own contact with social services so that they can make their own independent concerns known about the conduct and welfare of the different parties.

I think that also you need an assessment from an expert here to assess whether or not they see you as a person who is a potential abuser and whether the relaxed attitude and protection of your son and your wifes whereabouts is actually justified.

They need to do their job and if you feel that they are not doing their job then you have a right to complain and have your complaint thoroughly investigated.

Traumatic and harrassing as it is please do not give up right now. I had trouble with a social worker who got involved in child proceedings a while ago and at that time I did not know my rights or how I could protect my children (they were interviewed and felt hideously let down by the social worker as she disclosed what they thought was confidential information to me - actually I found the information disclosed very distressing and abusive to me).

You have three months to make your complaint clear and rights to dispute resolution which you need to agree - so do not agree if the statements you are asked to sign do not reflect properly your concerns.

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